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GhostWriter

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How do you handle the situation when a girl you're dating keeps rambling about her ex?

I sort of have a feeling people might tell me to just move on and next her but...
all girls have emotional baggage right? It seems like there's always an excuse to launch every girl I meet.
 

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The answer to this is subtle, and you provided way too little information on the subject to make a proper judgement. For instance, I've had a 9 year long relationship from my 16th till my 25th, in which my ex former a lot of my personality. So yes, I do talk about her every now and then, since she is such a part of who I am.

However, if she keeps on rambling(like you said), there might be issues with it. Because rambling doesn't mean "mention it sometimes", but means "going on and on". And usually when she does that, it means she is not over him.

How long ago did they break up? How long did that relationship last? what kind of subjects come up when she talks about it?

These are all important. In the end, it is your call if you if you next her. But the fact you come here on a forum to talk ask about it, means she triggered your red flag system. And when that happens, it usually means you sack her and move on.
 

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GhostWriter said:
How do you handle the situation when a girl you're dating keeps rambling about her ex?
You drop her. She is not over her ex.
 

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Thanks for the replies guys. I've been dating her for about 1 month. I won't go into the specifics since apparently it doesn't matter anymore...

I'll launch her, It's just a shame since It's rare for me to find someone I'm really attracted to. Ah well I'll man up.
 

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just to reconfirm what the other two said. she is not over her ex. I've been there, done that. Leave her and save yourself a lot of drama
 

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You need to grab your balls and dicipline your woman.

If she all of a sudden starts kicking the door of your car trying to make a dent are you going to let her do that? or are you going to tell her to stop and never do that again? Of course you're going to stop her duh! The same applies with anything else a woman does wrong to you.

Do you remember the look your dad gave you when you did something wrong when you were a kid? The stare that could cut through a wall. When a woman does something wrong to you that is what you do. Stare her down like you mean it, let her know in an affirmative fashion that you do not want her to do that ever again in your presence. No smiles, no bs, just you setting an expectation of respect towards yourself.

Guys now a days let women walk all over them. They never call them out on their misbehavior, they let themselves get disrespected and all just to be in the presence of a woman.

Women are wicked in their mind games and tests with you. She might not be over her ex or she just might be testing you to see how you react to her talking about her ex. Women like to play games you have to understand this. Don't try to reason with her or use logic because that won't work with women. Put your foot down and let her know you don' want to hear about her ex ever again in your presence and that's it.
For instance, I've had a 9 year long relationship from my 16th till my 25th, in which my ex former a lot of my personality. So yes, I do talk about her every now and then, since she is such a part of who I am.
Why don't you just cut off your balls and hand them over to your ex in a pink purse????

I can imagine it now you getting married one day and talking to your wife about your ex because "she is a part of who you are." You discovering a cure for cancer and thanking your ex because "she is a part of who you are." What kind of effeminate ********** is this???

This forum saddens me sometimes.
 

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GhostWriter said:
Thanks for the replies guys. I've been dating her for about 1 month. I won't go into the specifics since apparently it doesn't matter anymore...

I'll launch her, It's just a shame since It's rare for me to find someone I'm really attracted to. Ah well I'll man up.
Why not just tell her that she is boring you? I did that to one ex once and it worked, she kept talking about loser ex's, rambling about some stupid **** they did once or whatever, at first I was ok (in my experience all women like to talk about their exes at first, and really make a point of diggin up info from you about your exes as well), but at some point it was just boring me, because it actually was a boring subject - I wasnt threathened, just bored.

So I told her. I also made fun of her, with some silly voice impersonations of her talking about them. It worked. She probably felt stupid.

What I´m saying is, if you are about to next her you might as well give it a shot at "disciplining" her. Can´t be worst the result.
 
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