This.
But for submitting to occur organically there must be something worth submitting to. That is where leadership, otherwise known as “Frame” comes in.
Frankly, I have historically been very attracted to "difficult" women: independent, driven, super fit, financially sound women who have their own lives and have traditionally been eschewed by men who want to play with "easier" women. My experience is that the women I describe above are like prey to me, to be stalked, courted, and brought into submission.
In the process of seducing them, I often even tell them what I'm doing and why they react to me the way they do - it is often met with indignation, surprise at how correct I am in my statement, and finally, at the twitch, warmth, and humidity they feel in certain parts of their anatomies - it's INVOLUNTARY. And you know what? They don't care that I have that knowledge or how I acquired it; they just know that they have most likely never had a man who did it so effortlessly and admits to it to their face, almost as if to challenge them. *TINGLE*
These women are responsible for their businesses, quotidian lives, and everything else: every day, all week. The last thing they want is to be your mommy; they want a man who takes charge and leads but leads well. A man who can get them out of a bad situation, a man they can trust in a firefight.
Once you breach that barrier, you often have the subbiest of subs, who will be everything you ever wanted in a woman. They will crave their time with you and be fiercely loyal.