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If a girl is literally losing interest in you over a car then imagine what she is going to do with any other pitfalls in your life. Drop her!
Drop her? It hasn't been proven it was the car, that was pure speculation.

And anyone who bothered to read how she has responded, by graciously offering to drive him and pick him up can see she wasn't bothered by it.

Lord, it was a couple of days she went "cold," relax, people can have bad days and can get into temporary funks, most times it has nothing to do with us.

It's called being human.
 

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Drop her? It hasn't been proven it was the car, that was pure speculation.
If it comes to conclusion that the car caused this then he should drop her, but I think OP left out information from us. Turns out, he is not really dating her which has been confirmed.
 
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If it comes to conclusion that the car caused this then he should drop her, but I think OP left out information from us. Turns out, he is not really dating her which has been confirmed.
Well, maybe it's time he makes her his girlfriend then. Offering to be there for him, driving him, picking him up, she sounds like a keeper.

I mean, that's what a good relationship is, doing things for each other, being there for each other when needed.

Not to mention, him getting all twisted, enough to create this thread, because she wasn't as attentive as she normally is for a couple of days reflects his feelings go deeper than casual.
 

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Well, maybe it's time he makes her his girlfriend then. Offering to be there for him, driving him, picking him up, she sounds like a keeper.
His frame is too weak to be dating her right now. One delayed text will cause him to make a topic on here accusing her of cheating or something.
 

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Well, maybe it's time he makes her his girlfriend then. Offering to be there for him, driving him, picking him up, she sounds like a keeper.

I mean, that's what a good relationship is, doing things for each other, being there for each other when needed.

Not to mention, him getting all twisted, enough to create this thread, because she wasn't as attentive as she normally is for a couple of days reflects his feelings go deeper than casual.
As we know now whenever a poster/ thread STARTER goes from an insecure lil ***** back to the bravado gorilla stomping his chest, it NEVER ends well.

-He doesn't even know if and how lomg the relationship is going on..

- he doesn't understand why she went cold

- on his damn BIRTHDAY (imagine how OP would treat her on HER b day? Yup like queen Sheeba /goddess Venus. But what does he get? The silent treatment..) that's disrespectful AF..no "king" wants to be treated like this...

- the girl needs to pick you up AGAIN...sigh. I'd rather crawl back home at this point. I'd even be the one ghostinh her azz by now, yeah.

He even got @BeExcellent pissed lol haha

-Whatever. If he "makes her his gf " i predict it will crash down immediately. There's a reason why he didn't do it yet..lots of information is kept back, I can just sense it..
 

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As a man it’s always best to maintain independence until you agree she’s the right girl to live with or marry. FFS it could be a game by her to keep a very close eye on him while she arranges whatever she is doing while he’s in Dubai.

People ebb & flow. But if she’s on her phone all weird, has gone cold, is being secretive and you’re dependent on her for transportation?

She’s controlling the frame big time.

How you gonna maintain mystery when she knows exactly where you are because she took you there & she’s picking you up.

Car = Frame in this scenario dudes. It’s HER car; her frame.

That’s what I’m saying fellas.
 

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whenever there is a sudden and unexplained change in a woman's behaviour it is always because of another man somewhere in the picutre

the no car thing is a problem too , but I have had girlfriends in the past where I haven't had a car and it hasn't been an issue

this is another bloke
 

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Edit: JoyDavidson took his comment about “Frame” as a RP useless term down. All good. My response to that (below) stands:

Lots of males don’t know what being A Man is all about.

What is called Frame around here is really just a metaphor for leadership. Who is leading who is in charge.

Are you going to next tell me women shouldn’t submit?

I didn’t think so.

But for submitting to occur organically there must be something worth submitting to. That where leadership, otherwise known as “Frame” comes in.

Lots of men also don’t understand the nuances inherent in male/female interactions. While it’s not a binary thing, you gotta pay attention and look at changes in behavior.

OP posted here because of his Spidey sense going off on her somewhat shady behavior. He didn’t know what to make of it so he came here. That’s valid.

Hope he has a great birthday :)
 
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This.

But for submitting to occur organically there must be something worth submitting to. That is where leadership, otherwise known as “Frame” comes in.
Frankly, I have historically been very attracted to "difficult" women: independent, driven, super fit, financially sound women who have their own lives and have traditionally been eschewed by men who want to play with "easier" women. My experience is that the women I describe above are like prey to me, to be stalked, courted, and brought into submission.

In the process of seducing them, I often even tell them what I'm doing and why they react to me the way they do - it is often met with indignation, surprise at how correct I am in my statement, and finally, at the twitch, warmth, and humidity they feel in certain parts of their anatomies - it's INVOLUNTARY. And you know what? They don't care that I have that knowledge or how I acquired it; they just know that they have most likely never had a man who did it so effortlessly and admits to it to their face, almost as if to challenge them. *TINGLE*

These women are responsible for their businesses, quotidian lives, and everything else: every day, all week. The last thing they want is to be your mommy; they want a man who takes charge and leads but leads well. A man who can get them out of a bad situation, a man they can trust in a firefight.

Once you breach that barrier, you often have the subbiest of subs, who will be everything you ever wanted in a woman. They will crave their time with you and be fiercely loyal.
 
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What is called Frame around here is really just a metaphor for leadership. Who is leading who is in charge.
I believe both people can lead at different times and in different ways. This attitude (frame) has always worked best for me in my relationships.

You sound a bit "old school" @Be, believing the old stereotypical roles of masculine/feminine.

Which being on this forum and posting as you do with a masculine frame, admittedly, sort of contradicts your view of yourself as feminine, but whatever. You do you, I'm not here to judge you.

Me? I have a less traditional attitude and embrace a more multi-dimensional view of masculine/feminine. Who leads, who's "in charge." Such roles can be interchangeable depending on the circumstances.

No wrong or right, to each their own.
 
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Read this from the 10,000feet level... And think about it before you reply:

All these conditions, requirements, skills, expectations, things a man must do to keep a woman around and happy makes me wonder what the fuhk does she do? Just show up these days? It's so gynocentric

The juice isn't worth the squeeze. The older I get, the more I realize that.

They can come over for cookies and milk a few times per week and that's all. Anymore investment on the man's part and it's a slow decline. You keep yourself out of so many problems playing them this way.
 

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Read this from the 10,000feet level... And think about it before you reply:

All these conditions, requirements, skills, expectations, things a man must do to keep a woman around and happy makes me wonder what the fuhk does she do? Just show up these days? It's so gynocentric

The juice isn't worth the squeeze. The older I get, the more I realize that.

They can come over for cookies and milk a few times per week and that's all. Anymore investment on the man's part and it's a slow decline. You keep yourself out of so many problems playing them this way.
That's why I made this thread about being ready = staying ready = always ready ect.

You are you, living a dope life while a woman can " just" join (and thus leave!!) at any given moment. Your standards and thus living conditions are so good that she can join, it feel EFFORTLESS to the man .

-Not having a car
-spending way too much time
-facking twice a day
-The most important thing that nobody talks about; not even being acknowledged at your b day /special days.


You should be a man of class. In every aspect of the game.
 

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Well, maybe it's time he makes her his girlfriend then. Offering to be there for him, driving him, picking him up, she sounds like a keeper.

I mean, that's what a good relationship is, doing things for each other, being there for each other when needed.

Not to mention, him getting all twisted, enough to create this thread, because she wasn't as attentive as she normally is for a couple of days reflects his feelings go deeper than casual.
This girl is also talking about them as a couple to her friends and fam and it sounds like he doesn't want to communicate commitement.

The other thing is the OP is in CYPRUS.

Is there a worse part of the world for female attitudes? Let's think about the nearby countries: Italy, Greece, Turkey, Israel, all of the fundamental muslim countries nearby...

And OP is wondering why she's suddenly acting cold when this is where she lives and he won't commit... :rofl:
 
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