"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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She stopped talking to me out of nowhere! (?)

James184

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So,I was talking to this girl I am into last week.Some hours into texting,and while the conversation was going really well (basically her telling me she's into me as well) she stopped texting me.I assumed she fell asleep or something because it was late at night so I thought she would respond the next day.

Come the dawn,I see she has read my message but hasn't replied back.A full week has passed since then and I'm just standing here like wtf happened? Nothing weird or out of the ordinary happened and she stopped texting me out of the blue.Since then she has kept on liking my facebook posts however no message.

Could there possibly be an explanation to what happened?Can anyone help?

I thought of texting her these last couple of days telling her she disappeared,however I don't want to appear clingy.I believe that since she dropped the conversation short she has to be the one to make the effort now however too much time has passed since then and I'm really not sure what to do.

Any insight/advice will really be appreciated.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Roni_88

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That has happened to me sometimes, I used to dwell on it, sometimes showing her my frustration which pushed her away even further. Nowadays I just let it go, there could be a million reasons of why she didn't text back. I go onto the next girl and let her reappear if she wants. If you want to re contact her wait 1-2 weeks as a final strike.
 

Von

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Anything could have happened.

However if she says: "I am into you"

Than you have to escalate: instant date/sex or date meeting
 

GoodOne123

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Dude, I'd give her the benefit of the doubt just one time, and assume she had a good reason to stop talking. Try one more time, see if she reciprocates well, and ask her out if so.

For God sakes don't worry about appearing clingy. If you aren't clingy you will not appear clingy. Clingy people appear clingy, because they're clingy! Girls are experts at seeing you for what you really are, and the person you appear to be to them is usually who you really are.

If she doesn't want you no more then forget that *****.
 
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dude99

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So,I was talking to this girl I am into last week.Some hours into texting,and while the conversation was going really well (basically her telling me she's into me as well) she stopped texting me.I assumed she fell asleep or something because it was late at night so I thought she would respond the next day.

Come the dawn,I see she has read my message but hasn't replied back.A full week has passed since then and I'm just standing here like wtf happened? Nothing weird or out of the ordinary happened and she stopped texting me out of the blue.Since then she has kept on liking my facebook posts however no message.

Could there possibly be an explanation to what happened?Can anyone help?

I thought of texting her these last couple of days telling her she disappeared,however I don't want to appear clingy.I believe that since she dropped the conversation short she has to be the one to make the effort now however too much time has passed since then and I'm really not sure what to do.

Any insight/advice will really be appreciated.
Texting and messages on facebook are all going to do nothing except get you friend zoned if it hasn't happened already. Do not bring it up that she flaked. Act like nothing happened. As her out on a date be specific. Her reply will be the answer you need.

If it is yes. Then you are ok. If it is anything else.... you are friendzoned
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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marmel75

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So,I was talking to this girl I am into last week.Some hours into texting,and while the conversation was going really well (basically her telling me she's into me as well) she stopped texting me.I assumed she fell asleep or something because it was late at night so I thought she would respond the next day.

Come the dawn,I see she has read my message but hasn't replied back.A full week has passed since then and I'm just standing here like wtf happened? Nothing weird or out of the ordinary happened and she stopped texting me out of the blue.Since then she has kept on liking my facebook posts however no message.

Could there possibly be an explanation to what happened?Can anyone help?

I thought of texting her these last couple of days telling her she disappeared,however I don't want to appear clingy.I believe that since she dropped the conversation short she has to be the one to make the effort now however too much time has passed since then and I'm really not sure what to do.

Any insight/advice will really be appreciated.
1) Why are you texting for "hours"? Nothing good comes of this unless you know how to make her hot and bothered over text. Even then you are taking an unnecessary chance that could backfire.

2) Why didn't you ask her out on a date over all those hours?

3) She has 50 guys just like you who want to be her text buddy but have no balls to ask her out. You can't text your way into her pants. You can however, definitely text your way out of them.

4) Stop bullish!tting and ask her out on a date. If she doesn't respond positively delete her number and keep it moving

5) You only wonder about her because you have no or few other options. If you had other options you wouldn't give a fvck about what some random chick does.

Get more options. Stop wasting time with them. Get them out on a date and escalate in date.

You ask what to do, but the answer is always the same. Be a man. Take the lead. Stop engaging in female behavior like texting all day.
 
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