"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She seems interested, but is she really?

mccjf

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Hi all,

I'm a college sophomore looking for some thoughtful advice here--I have had girlfriends and what not, but the last time I approached a girl who I wasn't simply trying to hook up with but wanted to maybe date was some time ago. That being said, I met somebody this weekend that I liked quite a bit, and I don't want to **** this up. Hopefully you can help.

I went to an event w/another date, and at this event was a girl who I had met very briefly in the past and enjoyed talking to. This night, we both came to an event with people we weren't interested in and hit it off together. She was consistently complimentary of me (telling me at various points that I was handsome, charming and that it 'took a lot of self control not to make out with you right there'. All in all, we seemed to have a pretty good rapport, I got her number, and she went home with her friends.

Later the next night, she posted something at least mildly playful/flirtatious on my facebook wall, to which i replied. I sent her a text message the following day (Yesterday), with something related to her post, and she replied a couple hours later with yet another facebook post and a text. I responded via text a few hours later, late at night, and she did not respond and hasn't responded today. All we've been talking about is music, as we are both musicians, but i want to try and move it beyond that/get out on a date with her.

We are finishing finals now and will be on break for a week, so I don't want to do anything and see the momentum broken. I also don't want to let this slip away. What's the course of action between now and the start of next term in 13 days or so? Anything at all?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DonJuan_DeRosco

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Too much txt/facebook talk!

Call, arrange date, sorted!

She accepts, she's probably interested. She doesn't, she's probably not interested.
 

Iceberg

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DonJuan_DeRosco said:
Too much txt/facebook talk!

Call, arrange date, sorted!

She accepts, she's probably interested. She doesn't, she's probably not interested.
My thoughts exactly. She texts, you send a Facebook message a few hours later. Then the next day, you text again. She replies. You send a Facebook message.

You think you're keeping momentum, but you're really just becoming boring and predictable. I mean, you're not married. You're not even dating. So why do you have to be in touch with her everyday? My actual girlfriends might hear from me every 2-3 days. You're giving her all this attention before she's even earned it.

Anyway, it's easy. Just invite her for drinks. She says yes or she says no.
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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Enough with the idle chatter. Get her to the crib!
 

nismo-4

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This texting and facebooking sh*t needs to stop.

Unless you just want to be her Electronic Platonic Friend. Boring sh*t. And you're doing it now. Talking to her daily by any means shows that you have little to no options.

Use the phone to set up a date and work your magic in real life! Whether or not she's interested depends on if she shows up FOR YOUR PLANS.

Case dismissed.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Desdinova

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Agreed with all of the previous. It's been a couple of days and the feeling resulting from your charm has worn off a bit. Phone her up, make some idle chit chat, and ask her out.
 
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