Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
she says..
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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me - haha OK
her - but we can be friends cant we?
me - actually i'm kinda busy, but i'll keep you in mind when my other friends aren't around
her - dont be bitter its unattractive
me - im never bitter, but always fun!
her - good be fun then, now go to bed and dont have nightmares
(i used to have nightmares when we started talkin and i'd text her durin the night about it)
me - i won't anymore, i've moved on from us
her - hmm its interesting how your handling this, just so you know...it just adds to life. you don't always have to move on from life. just live it. be happy. dont dwell. like you said youre fun, be fun. g'night.
oh side note, before this convo took place she was sayin how i come off selfish and only want one thing (an intimate relationship) haha girls are funny
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
haha reason for that was the first night she joked and said dont have any nightmares and i told her i never did and if i were to by some weird coincidence id wake her up right after my disturbance. so it became this little thing.
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Once you've gotten used to doing this you might want to keep a few of these failed attempts of getting the girl and use the friends you've made to get other girls. You know social proof and that crap
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
also according to this girl the turning point was when she said she only wanted a friend right now because "her life is complicated" and i said no thanks "it was a huge turn off when you denied that"
that convo occured about 2 days ago.
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Also remember that at some damn point duding the time you spent with the girl you must of had a chance of making sure you become the bf by either making out with her or nailing her. If you interactions have been only over the phone then thats where you failed you remained just a cute voice over the phone and not something real that she can see touch and taste.
Your going to have to sit there for 10 mins and think about this and learn from it so that it doesnt happen again.
KontrollerX
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Anyway it looks like you did the best you could with that convo but this idiot seems to have it in her mind that you are beneath her and unworthy of her judging by her incredibly condescending ending to the convo.
The only part that seems to have a glint of hope for your chances were her words "its interesting how you're handling this".
Maybe this is a planted seed that will grow into her further interest in you the more you keep up your distancing.
Who knows though just keep spinnin those other plates and like Victory Unlimited so often says...
March on.
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