"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
she says..
- Thread starter cNfny
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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me - haha OK
her - but we can be friends cant we?
me - actually i'm kinda busy, but i'll keep you in mind when my other friends aren't around
her - dont be bitter its unattractive
me - im never bitter, but always fun!
her - good be fun then, now go to bed and dont have nightmares
(i used to have nightmares when we started talkin and i'd text her durin the night about it)
me - i won't anymore, i've moved on from us
her - hmm its interesting how your handling this, just so you know...it just adds to life. you don't always have to move on from life. just live it. be happy. dont dwell. like you said youre fun, be fun. g'night.
oh side note, before this convo took place she was sayin how i come off selfish and only want one thing (an intimate relationship) haha girls are funny
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
haha reason for that was the first night she joked and said dont have any nightmares and i told her i never did and if i were to by some weird coincidence id wake her up right after my disturbance. so it became this little thing.
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Once you've gotten used to doing this you might want to keep a few of these failed attempts of getting the girl and use the friends you've made to get other girls. You know social proof and that crap
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
also according to this girl the turning point was when she said she only wanted a friend right now because "her life is complicated" and i said no thanks "it was a huge turn off when you denied that"
that convo occured about 2 days ago.
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Also remember that at some damn point duding the time you spent with the girl you must of had a chance of making sure you become the bf by either making out with her or nailing her. If you interactions have been only over the phone then thats where you failed you remained just a cute voice over the phone and not something real that she can see touch and taste.
Your going to have to sit there for 10 mins and think about this and learn from it so that it doesnt happen again.
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Anyway it looks like you did the best you could with that convo but this idiot seems to have it in her mind that you are beneath her and unworthy of her judging by her incredibly condescending ending to the convo.
The only part that seems to have a glint of hope for your chances were her words "its interesting how you're handling this".
Maybe this is a planted seed that will grow into her further interest in you the more you keep up your distancing.
Who knows though just keep spinnin those other plates and like Victory Unlimited so often says...
March on.
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