SHE SAYS I NEVER TEXT HER FIRST

[Solaar pleure]

Hi.
So I have been seeing this girl for a couple of months now and all is good as far as I can tell. Yesterday I received this text from her:
Her: You don't care about me.
Me: What would make you think that?
Her: I am always the first one to text you, you only just reply.
I explained to her that I do text her but just not as much as she does. She then told me I sounded like a player.
Should I text her first more often? My gut feeling is that I should not but I am not sure.
PS: She text me almost everyday.

 

[jaymbrs]

She's sensing an imbalance in the relationship and she's trying to gain some assurance from you. Texting her first here and there isn't a bad thing, but really only when you have something you need to tell her. I wouldn't just text her a "hello, how are you?" though.

 

[Glassguy]

Hi.
So I have been seeing this girl for a couple of months now and all is good as far as I can tell. Yesterday I received this text from her:
Her: You don't care about me.
Me: What would make you think that?
Her: I am always the first one to text you, you only just reply.
I explained to her that I do text her but just not as much as she does. She then told me I sounded like a player.
Should I text her first more often? My gut feeling is that I should not but I am not sure.
PS: She text me almost everyday.

You are doing things correctly. Continue as you have been doing.

Her: You never text me first
Me: Sorry babe. You know how busy of a guy I am. It doesnt mean that I am not thinking about you

 

[AttackFormation]

The fact that she accused you of seeming like a player is great, it means she thinks you are attractive enough that other girls would want you and so does she. She is complimenting you, and is probably anxious but excited that she found a guy who isn't blowing up her phone. Spin this off with some lighthearted teasing and a small but cute reassurance to finish, then go back to keeping up what you're doing.

 

[Spaz]

Almost all the girls I've been with says the same shiet. It's like some sort of default mechanism women all over the world keep repeating to men.

I just kept doing the same - letting them text me 1st and so should you.

 

[backseatjuan]

No no. You should text her first, but not like a beta thing. In whatsapp there is a feature for voice text, perhaps use that. So long as you don't over talk with her into a beta guy and she dumps you. Her complaint has to do with her wanting more of you and being insecure with herself, which is fine. But you have to plug that insecurity, give her a little of what she wants, and stick more d1ck into her, fvck her more often.