She Said, "You Demand Too Much"

[Fela Kuti]

It doesn't matter you should not be bothered if he's new or old.
-So you're saying that it's okay for her to "date" other men freely? I'm sure many wouldn't agree with you on this.

I don't understand. Please explain.
-Well, one day when we're talking, I found out that she have a big secret that known only to her selected friends. She wouldn't tell me what it was, and still is. So I felt that her trust level was low.

 

[JDA70]

It doesn't matter you should not be bothered if he's new or old.
-So you're saying that it's okay for her to "date" other men freely? I'm sure many wouldn't agree with you on this.

No I'm not say that at all.
I was simply saying to not worry
if she talks to other guys. If shes talks to others guys
don't go thinking shes cheating on you.

I don't understand. Please explain.
-Well, one day when we're talking, I found out that she have a big secret that known only to her selected friends. She wouldn't tell me what it was, and still is. So I felt that her trust level was low.

Did you ask her why she won't tell you?

 

[Fela Kuti]

No I'm not say that at all.
I was simply saying to not worry
if she talks to other guys. If shes talks to others guys
don't go thinking shes cheating on you.
-While on the topic, how can I found out if my gf is cheating or not without coming as insecure?


Did you ask her why she won't tell you?
-She said it's because she's afraid it might change my perception on her. That made me even more curious!

 

[Fela Kuti]

one thing i don't like about my gf is she likes to say, "i don't like you" or "you're cruel" or "you're annoying" or something like that out of the blue, mainly on sms. but when i ask why is that, she answers, "no reason. haha, just kidding." I don't know about you, but this annoys me. Because she wouldn't have said that if she's really kidding. She's kinda passive aggressive. She's not used to tell directly her problems to me. What should I do? Pushing her for an answer might only get her pressured.

 

[Last Man Standing]

one thing i don't like about my gf is she likes to say, "i don't like you" or "you're cruel" or "you're annoying" or something like that out of the blue, mainly on sms. but when i ask why is that, she answers, "no reason. haha, just kidding." I don't know about you, but this annoys me. Because she wouldn't have said that if she's really kidding. She's kinda passive aggressive. She's not used to tell directly her problems to me. What should I do? Pushing her for an answer might only get her pressured.

Don't trust her - she is playing with your head!!

When you have to make "demands" on what should already be known and practiced, then you know that something is wrong - she is not the girl for you!

 

[Fela Kuti]

Don't trust her - she is playing with your head!!

When you have to make "demands" on what should already be known and practiced, then you know that something is wrong - she is not the girl for you!

don't trust what? her saying i'm cruel? or her saying she's kidding?

 

[Last Man Standing]

Don't trust her! A g/f who calls you annoying is not trustworthy!! If she does this often then it is not a joke anymore!!

 

[Fela Kuti]

hmmm, really? you got any examples? btw, she always type that in joking way. for example: "you're annoying haha"

 

[Last Man Standing]

You can't get emotion over a computer - so maybe she is joking
But the issue here is her comments about your demands - a demand is made only when it is not being already done!! Too many demands tells me that you are not compatible and in the end you will be disappointed because she will do as she wants anyway - behind your back - then you'll be pissed and feel disrespected!!

 

[Fela Kuti]

no no, i don't think the problem is not that serious. my demands are not heavy and in the end, she agreed to fulfill it.

 

[Last Man Standing]

no no, i don't think the problem is not that serious. my demands are not heavy and in the end, she agreed to fulfill it.

I know they are not heavy that is the problem! If she thinks that these demands are out of the ordinary then this is a cause for concern. These demands are a given and shouldn't be looked at as demands.

 

[Fela Kuti]

oh i see what you mean. but her complaint was not about the demands itself. she didn't mind to fulfill them AFAIK. but her complaint is about how I often make demands.