"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She said, "Let's take it slow, you can see other women." How should I react?
- Thread starter Fela Kuti
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
San Jose California said:based off prostitutes
2000+ posts, really?San Jose California said:Haha what the hell, fuck yeah.
Now ask yourself: are you going to just take that from a woman?I'm not into you right now.
Probably never will be.
But we'll see.
Keep doing what you're doing and feeding my ego, because I like that.
I just don't like YOU!
thevilittletroll
Senior Don Juan
ps: since she's not your gf, its impossible to cheat on her
pss: its not called cheating if you dont get caught
sorry man, but you're wrong. I can read women's IL and hers is still decent. she even said currently she doesn't like any guy but me and she's not opening up for another guy. she's just trying to get rid of the guilty feeling.TheJazz said:What she said gently, indirectly and femininely was:
Now ask yourself: are you going to just take that from a woman?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
edit: Just realized that she cheated on her ex for you. Good luck making this one last. Just bang her while you can and enjoy.
this chick is a special case. she's almost incapable of being jealous. she even allowed her past bf's to go out with any girls.49au said:Can you provide even one reason that a sane, emotionally healthy woman with any real IL would encourage you to date other women.
about the cheating, surely "once a cheater always a cheater" doesn't apply to every case.
How do you know this? Because she told you?Fela Kuti said:this chick is a special case. she's almost incapable of being jealous. she even allowed her past bf's to go out with any girls.
And she is almost incapable of being jealous, yet she can't stand when you don't contact her for 4 days?
And why shouldn't it apply here?about the cheating, surely "once a cheater always a cheater" doesn't apply to every case.
Just because what she says and what actually happens is two different things. She says she doesn't get jealous but she most likely isn't telling you the whole story about why she dumped her bf and jumped ship to you. Its been stated in another thread of yours in which you still trying to justify to yourself and others on this site why this could work;Fela Kuti said:this chick is a special case. she's almost incapable of being jealous. she even allowed her past bf's to go out with any girls.
Jaylan said:Denial is a river in your mind.
It applies to a majority of cases and the ones it doesn't it is just a cheater finally settling for a guy she can get to do whatever she wants him to do. Again as I said in this other thread:Fela Kuti said:about the cheating, surely "once a cheater always a cheater" doesn't apply to every case.
Just listen to this youtube video. Yeah its a 42 minute clip and at first you wont get the meaning but listen to the information contained within. Hopefully you'll see what is going on.Zodiac said:She drifts from one relationship to another dumping people when another shiny thing catches her eye. She cheated once before with a guy that seems to be you in this case.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OOKflZLPLys
Listen at around 5:00 onward. A woman calls up and tells why she cheated. She cheats because she did it out of spite to get even at her bf at the time. That is a common reason people cheat which is indeed spite. You have to accept the possibility, no matter how hard you want to deny it, you were a pawn in her game to spite her bf. If you plan on ignoring the advice given in your many threads, that a majority of time tell you exactly the opposite you tell us you are going to do anyway, at least air on the side of caution and consider the possibility she is indeed lying to you and using you as a pawn.
She doesn't want a singular relationship judging by her comments of letting you date other people. You seem to have oneitis for this chick however. This can end horribly when she decides that out of her plates that she is spinning she doesn't think your plate is good enough. Sounds like the girl is a Don Juan and you seem to still have a sort of AFC mindset or are at least regressing on a few items such as pedestal placing and oneitising this girl.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
where's that 4 days thing came from? you mistaken this thread for another thread, maybe?49au said:And she is almost incapable of being jealous, yet she can't stand when you don't contact her for 4 days?
I think that's coming from my (totally unrelated) thread.Fela Kuti said:where's that 4 days thing came from? you mistaken this thread for another thread, maybe?
That's bullcrap. Women are women. There are no special cases. You refuse to see the truth, despite our best efforts to enlighten you. You can either believe us and accept the help we offer, or rationalize this chick's garbage until you crash and burn. At the end of the day, 2+2 is 4.this chick is a special case. she's almost incapable of being jealous. she even allowed her past bf's to go out with any girls.