"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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she said i was intense

cNfny

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not in a good way, this chick i started talkin to online and we had left off on a good note. stopped talkin to me so i sent her a text askin what her deal was and she said "you're really intense" so i replied with "i know isnt it great? i guess i'll go be "intense" with someone else who can handle it"

wondering how to properly handle a situation like this
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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In my AFC recovery days I was once called "intense." I think it was because, I had too much passion and my personality was too strong.

It may mean, therefore, you need to become more aloof and detached - that is, if you want to cater to her frame. Alternatively, you can continue what you're doing and put her in your frame. Depends on your style - I'd recommend the latter.
 

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I was called intense once by a girl, had no idea what she meant, if it was good or bad, but I think what she meant is that I made her feel intense emotions. As long as you make a girl feel something that's a start, haha.
 

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It may mean, therefore, you need to become more aloof and detached - that is, if you want to cater to her frame
what exactly do you mean?

also is there anyway to get this girl's interest back, was my response appropiate?
 

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It sounds like your being too needy. Why did you need to ask what her deal is? You shouldn't care what her deal is, you should have just talked to her like everything is all good because in a DJs mindset it really is all good considering a DJ has other girls he's enjoying. Your response probably creeped her out even more, I doubt you could salvage this.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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