She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yea cause she's gonna be honest when you're about to put it in her. Like she's gonna say "I have Syphilis, AIDS, and uhhh oh yea herpes too." Or you can wrap it up and not have to deal with that in the first place. But you need to worry about yourself first, which you're not doing when you don't use protection.baurman said:I even asked her too "Are you clean? Im clean" and shes like "Yeah" and she isnt even the kind of girl that seems like a slvt. shes like the type you'd bring home to mom. So kids, wrap up. The only time I didn't, I fvked myself. Im just glad this shyt is curable. But this scare will make me never fck without a condom ever again.
You're in my prayers.baurman said:OK.....
Just as we predicted. It was one of the options.
Well she did go to her OBGYN to get birth control and she told me that she has gonnorea. but then she was like they gave her an antibiotic that she took and it will cure it. So at first I was like WTF!?!? i got a F*CKIN STD?? I was about to just tell the bytch to take my ass home but I was like nah I can't do that. She was telling me how she set me up an appointment at the Clinic (today) and now I have to get the doctor to stick a q-tip up my d!ckhole. F*CK.![]()
She was crying and thinks im gonna break up with her. Then she started to tell me about who she had sex with and she's had unprotected sex with 2 guys before me in the past year.
At first I was worried I had some un-cureable sh!T but then I told her whatever she has, I have. so if she only has gonnerea then I guess that's all I have too. So I just wanted to take the damn antibiotic. but I guess I gotta go get tested anyway. But she kept saying that once I take the antibiotic, in 10 days it will kill it. We'll both be 100% clean and then we can have unprotected sex.
Yea this is fkn embarassing, but I don't even know if I'm going to stay with her after this. It just sickens me. Fkn my fault too though for havin sex with her w/o a condom. I even asked her too "Are you clean? Im clean" and shes like "Yeah" and she isnt even the kind of girl that seems like a slvt. shes like the type you'd bring home to mom. So kids, wrap up. The only time I didn't, I fvked myself. Im just glad this shyt is curable. But this scare will make me never fck without a condom ever again.
SHE F'ED MANY MORE THAN 2... SHE ONLY CARES TO MENTION 2...baurman said:OK.....
Just as we predicted. It was one of the options.
Well she did go to her OBGYN to get birth control and she told me that she has gonnorea. but then she was like they gave her an antibiotic that she took and it will cure it. So at first I was like WTF!?!? i got a F*CKIN STD?? I was about to just tell the bytch to take my ass home but I was like nah I can't do that. She was telling me how she set me up an appointment at the Clinic (today) and now I have to get the doctor to stick a q-tip up my d!ckhole. F*CK.![]()
She was crying and thinks im gonna break up with her. Then she started to tell me about who she had sex with and she's had unprotected sex with 2 guys before me in the past year.
At first I was worried I had some un-cureable sh!T but then I told her whatever she has, I have. so if she only has gonnerea then I guess that's all I have too. So I just wanted to take the damn antibiotic. but I guess I gotta go get tested anyway. But she kept saying that once I take the antibiotic, in 10 days it will kill it. We'll both be 100% clean and then we can have unprotected sex.
Yea this is fkn embarassing, but I don't even know if I'm going to stay with her after this. It just sickens me. Fkn my fault too though for havin sex with her w/o a condom. I even asked her too "Are you clean? Im clean" and shes like "Yeah" and she isnt even the kind of girl that seems like a slvt. shes like the type you'd bring home to mom. So kids, wrap up. The only time I didn't, I fvked myself. Im just glad this shyt is curable. But this scare will make me never fck without a condom ever again.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.