Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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She postponed a first date: Genuine, not interested or a test?

John192

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Hey,

I met a college girl last Thursday, and arranged a date yesterday to go out tomorrow night. (Note: She's out of this state from Wednesday night for the rest of the week).

I received a text this morning: "Hi I have to tidy my room so I can't make it tomorrow. I might be able to go out next week though."

Part of me wants to just dump her because I've possibly missed out on another event tomorrow night, but another part of me wants to believe it's a genuine need ("have to tidy my room", wtf? Is it that urgent?) and that I should make it clear somehow that I'm busy and don't stand for having my time wasted often.

What do you guys suggest I do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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scrouds

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Are you really going to stand for that piss poor excuse? Lets put it this way... she'd rather do laundry and pick up empty beer cans from her dorm floor then hang out with you. Yes, I'd call that disinterest.
 

ENIGMA16

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You don't really have to know what this actually is in order to react to it accordingly. If I were you I'd just tell her to call you next time she's interested in planning a date and then assume she won't call and move on. Regardless if she doesn't call you're good.
 

Ridingthelightning

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I was about to say, "Do women think these excuses actually work?" but it almost worked on this guy.
You could say, "Ok, call me next week."
Or depending on how I felt I might be apt to say, "Nah, your room will get dirty by then, you'll need to tidy it up again.
 

kingy

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its a terrible excuse! this girl is ditching you to clean her room. tell her she must have time to nurrish her sole and flirt as its what jesus would've wanted! If the reigion card doesnt work, glass her in the face!

p.s. go out and meet other girls, whenever you find yourself caring if a girl is going to reply unless your outergame is super tight u will screw things up. If you are pulling in 6 numbers a night, it actually just becomes a bit of a headache remembering where u need to be and date merging seems the only logical option in this crazy world. x
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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