she pays, a way for her to justify in future its not a date?

[drift king]

this girl im seeing every other date tries to pay and says 'it's my turn..' i don't like this.. it's like shes trying to friendzone me and we take it in turns to pay.

i can't get the money out of my pocket quick enough before she's paid, is she using this as a future reason that it isn't a date?

we haven't kiss closed yet but she's licked my lips, as soon as i try to kiss she pulls away. she's a tease. we've been out 6 times in total. 2 intially 2 months ago, now 4 in that past 2 weeks. if i haven't seen her for 2 months, does the cycle of dating start again i.e. in my case the 3rd date is a new 1st date?

 

[jophil28]

You have been out 6 times and she is pulling away when you try to kiss her ?
Do you really need to hear from us what you already know ?
There is a tiny teeny weeny chance that you can sexualize this "relationship", but I just don't know how.
SIX TIMES out and no kissy..sheesh.

 

[Cinamon]

Unfortunately I agree with Jophil28, 6 dates and no kiss = not interested

 

[WaterTiger]

In these modern times, most of the guys here will tell you that this proves she likes you and isn't after you just for money.

Now if it's your birthday, anniversary or a promotion at work, then I'll take you out and pay for everything.

But I'm old school. Paying for the dinner, taking turns or going dutch is what I do with my girlfriends when we go shopping. If I'm starting to date a guy and I pay for our dinners...he has ZERO chance for anything romantic. He's just become my girlfriend!

 

[playerone]

In these modern times, most of the guys here will tell you that this proves she likes you and isn't after you just for money.

Now if it's your birthday, anniversary or a promotion at work, then I'll take you out and pay for everything.

But I'm old school. Paying for the dinner, taking turns or going dutch is what I do with my girlfriends when we go shopping. If I'm starting to date a guy and I pay for our dinners...he has ZERO chance for anything romantic. He's just become my girlfriend!

Valid point.

 

[mrRuckus]

I fvck women who are willing to pay. I'm not friend zoned when I accept.

You are weird to me if you have issues having a woman pay for you. I sometimes accept; I sometimes say no. I like to let her contribute. It depends on things like if she has a good income, no income, or what depending on how often I let them. I'm no one's cash cow.

I never ever do "I pay for everything." I resent it later.

I don't think there's much of any greater meaning behind it you can apply to anyone.

I make a lot of money for someone my age. It has little to do with my willingness to pay for stuff.

Aren't you supposed to be the prize? Let her foot the bill sometimes and earn that prize. Who cares about the random woman who declares herself old school and that guy "won't get anything romantic?" I've personally never run into a woman who does anything like that, and when I do I won't give a damn.

This is like that silly thread a few weeks ago where a guy was saying you MUST kiss a girl on a first date or she won't go out with you again. I've never seen that happen!

 

[AlmostThere!]

I have sex with this girl who still insists we go half.

 

[Vice]

If I'm starting to date a guy and I pay for our dinners...he has ZERO chance for anything romantic. He's just become my girlfriend!

Everyone who reads this quote needs to take it with a grain of salt.

 

[The Grey Fox]

6 dates without a kiss? Why are you even spending time on this woman? Kiss on the first date, if she pulls away then I'm not interested. I dont go on dates to small-talk with broads all night.

 

[IamMe]

well she licks your lips, i guess shes somewhat interested lmao...i guess it just depends on the day....and if shes willing to pay why not milk the situation a little. You've got nothing to lose except for like one night a week (please dont give me bull**** about how every night is valuable because most people on here are deff not going out with a diff girl evvery night). Since you're not paying, might as well see where this goes why the hell not?

 

[rocksoff]

Enjoy the free food man

 

[InPresent]

6 dates without a kiss? Why are you even spending time on this woman? Kiss on the first date, if she pulls away then I'm not interested. I dont go on dates to small-talk with broads all night.

This. I really don't get why this woman goes on 6 dates. Can anyone explain me this?

 

[Nutz]

Crap or get off the pot. Escalate, hard core. Best way to test to see where things are going, when you're out playfully slap her ass. If it's a positive reaction, pin her against a wall and makeout with her. If not, then you're a girlfriend and aren't supposed to be doing that.

 

[808]

...we've been out 6 times in total. 2 intially 2 months ago, now 4 in that past 2 weeks. if i haven't seen her for 2 months, does the cycle of dating start again i.e. in my case the 3rd date is a new 1st date?

There's no such thing as a "new 1st date" First impressions and all that are important.

6 dates and still no kiss closing? I'd have 'nexted' her.

As for paying for the date; if she's willing to pay, never put up an argument.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

Hell yeah let her pay. She'll think you're "secure of your own masculinity", and you eat for free. If you don't take the gimmies, don't whine about the ones that got away.

And if WaterTiger paid for my dinner, she'd soon be a WetCougar.

 

[Blank]

Ideally this whole situation shouldn't be a big deal to you because you have a lot of other things going on in your life and she's not the only girl you're seeing. Right? Right.