"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She paid for my meal??

themyth

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I met up with a girl from my school for lunch I met this semester, wasn't considered a date but just getting a meal after I needed to pick up some school papers from her. Now before lunch we found out that we both have the same favorite food, like we both read each's mind. What ended up happening was we had a good time and she actually paid for both of our meals, she just picked it up and declined my offer.I said I'll pick up next one. How many dudes can say that a girl paying for my meal... But I'm still not convinced in her interest level in me, cause I've known a lot of girl players(I see some in her) and this girl seems to have a lot of dudes after her and she has a lot of options and possibly guys on the side, big partier like myself. I got stiff competition, I barely know her compared to these guys and I don't party with her like they do.
Now she knows I'm cool confident,we flirt at times, I'm ****y funny but maybe bit too much into myself and arrogant, we joke, eye contact etc. But I haven't yet gotten the oppotunity to pull some kino on her yet. Now what do you think, since this wasn't a date she could of at least let me pay for myself, is this a sure sign of interest or just friendly sincereity of a friend. This broad seems differnet than most I've been with and definitly piqued my interest level...feedback appreciate it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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stinkyape

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Can't be a bad thing, and could well means there's some significant interest on her part. Say thanks, but don't make a big deal out of it. Its always good to let people do favours for you, it reinforces in their mind their positive feelings about you.
 

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why do you think so much about little things, if you do that your just gonna **** up...just kick the **** back man...
 

woods

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If she has a lot of dudes after her, it is a very good thing to have her do as many favors for you as possible. It reinforces a feeling of her "investing" in your time. And, anyone who "invests" in anything, wants a return, get it? If you buy a chick dinner, you are gonna want something back too. Besides, all the other chumps are gonna be buying her crap to try to buy her attention, and this sets you in a different frame. You have the advantage.
 

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if she doesn't know u very well and is already buying you stuff then that's an IOI. if anything, since she's so hot and so wanted she's good social proof.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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