"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She paid for my dinner.

T-Mack

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I’ve seen this girl around the college a few times. The most we have done was smile at each other and say hi when passing by. She is a HB6. Well, I got her to go out with me to dinner right on the spot because we met randomly at the same place that we were both going to eat at only to find out it was closed early because of thanksgiving break. So after introducing myself I asked her if she would like to join me to go eat at a different place.

I teased her a bit and got her laughing a few times. I spent the majority of time getting to know her to see if there was any compatibility. I wasn’t seeing much and there were points with small silences in the conversation. When we got the check I said in a non serious voice you’re paying for me right. She says sure I don’t mind. Then I said I was kidding and that I’ll pay. She still insisted on paying. I didn’t want to argue so I just said I would pay for her the next time we go out and she just smiled. Before leaving I got her number and gave her hug and left her before she paid because I was late for class.

She doesn’t look like someone I’d want to get into a relationship with. I am still a newbie and I just want to lay this girl down. The last time a girl paid for my dinner I got the LJBF’s deal the following week and we made out that same night too. What I am wondering is if I already messed up by letting her pay for me on the first date?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ready123

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you're fine

and for reference, unless you choose to throw a tantrum and make a big deal out of it, whoever pays doesn't matter and won't kill your game
 
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