"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She often says his name
- Thread starter Mustache
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Metro3pilot
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 11, 2005
- Messages
- 335
- Reaction score
- 9
- Age
- 56
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
amoka
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 18, 2006
- Messages
- 1,931
- Reaction score
- 62
She wants you to be jealous and make you become like her boss at work, simply don't mind her whenever she brings such subject up. Tell her " I met this girl at the mall today, she is very intellectual. We chatted for a while before departed".
It could mean NOTHING.
I had a co-worker (young female) that constantly talked about me. She STILL talks about me. I seriously doubt she sees me as something sexual and it might be more of my attitude, etc. Plus we are good friends.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
Just because your GF talks about her boss in the first person using his name, means NOTHING by itself.
When I talk to my GF about work, I use my boss' first name as well - doesn't mean I'm about to fvck her.