"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She may flake the date.Im keeping my head cool.

romanticman

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So ..I asked her last Friday to meet for coffee this friday. Its a woman i have met online and lately its been going great. She agreed to meet and said its great to be finally meet. Since that day she has not responded to finalise a place. I still belive she will come through but also may be thinking of avoiding the meet. I dont want to be needy.It has been 5 days and no reply. Should i call her or leave her as is? Do i ask if shes still up for it or wait for her to materialise. My wussy instinct was to cave in but I am doing the opposite.I refuse to go soft into her game.. What do you guys think? Play her game or maintain my stance?
Am i over reacting? should i call to ask if its still on?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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romanticman said:
So ..I asked her last Friday to meet for coffee this friday. Its a woman i have met online and lately its been going great. She agreed to meet and said its great to be finally meet. Since that day she has not responded to finalise a place. I still belive she will come through but also may be thinking of avoiding the meet. I dont want to be needy.It has been 5 days and no reply. Should i call her or leave her as is? Do i ask if shes still up for it or wait for her to materialise. My wussy instinct was to cave in but I am doing the opposite.I refuse to go soft into her game.. What do you guys think? Play her game or maintain my stance?
Am i over reacting? should i call to ask if its still on?
Ugh, too many questions!

There's a million possible reasons that she didn't respond or hasn't responded yet. Who plans to get a cup of coffee a week ahead of time? If this girl is dating guys online, then how many "coffee dates" do you think she's been on?

I haven't tried the online dating thing, but I'm getting curious. I would of told her something like "I'm going paddle boarding at xyz beach this weekend. You can join me if you think you can keep up!" And response or no response from her, I would actually go do it!

How many guys does she know that do that kind of stuff?!
 

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Give it one more shot, and keep the invitation short and simple. Tell her it's the last call. If she declines, move on unless she makes the initiative to set something up.
 

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Allurre said:
Give it one more shot, and keep the invitation short and simple. Tell her it's the last call. If she declines, move on unless she makes the initiative to set something up.
Thank you. My gut instinct is telling me the same thing. . If she doesnt come to the party its over. Cant lay down our dignity for any woman but shes got a last chance.
 

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Well I kept my cool texted her then rang her. The date is on tommorow. Its happenning. The theory is right...avoid wussiness and keep manliness right to the end. Always keep it together ...thanks all.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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