"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She may flake the date.Im keeping my head cool.

romanticman

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So ..I asked her last Friday to meet for coffee this friday. Its a woman i have met online and lately its been going great. She agreed to meet and said its great to be finally meet. Since that day she has not responded to finalise a place. I still belive she will come through but also may be thinking of avoiding the meet. I dont want to be needy.It has been 5 days and no reply. Should i call her or leave her as is? Do i ask if shes still up for it or wait for her to materialise. My wussy instinct was to cave in but I am doing the opposite.I refuse to go soft into her game.. What do you guys think? Play her game or maintain my stance?
Am i over reacting? should i call to ask if its still on?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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romanticman said:
So ..I asked her last Friday to meet for coffee this friday. Its a woman i have met online and lately its been going great. She agreed to meet and said its great to be finally meet. Since that day she has not responded to finalise a place. I still belive she will come through but also may be thinking of avoiding the meet. I dont want to be needy.It has been 5 days and no reply. Should i call her or leave her as is? Do i ask if shes still up for it or wait for her to materialise. My wussy instinct was to cave in but I am doing the opposite.I refuse to go soft into her game.. What do you guys think? Play her game or maintain my stance?
Am i over reacting? should i call to ask if its still on?
Ugh, too many questions!

There's a million possible reasons that she didn't respond or hasn't responded yet. Who plans to get a cup of coffee a week ahead of time? If this girl is dating guys online, then how many "coffee dates" do you think she's been on?

I haven't tried the online dating thing, but I'm getting curious. I would of told her something like "I'm going paddle boarding at xyz beach this weekend. You can join me if you think you can keep up!" And response or no response from her, I would actually go do it!

How many guys does she know that do that kind of stuff?!
 

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Give it one more shot, and keep the invitation short and simple. Tell her it's the last call. If she declines, move on unless she makes the initiative to set something up.
 

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Allurre said:
Give it one more shot, and keep the invitation short and simple. Tell her it's the last call. If she declines, move on unless she makes the initiative to set something up.
Thank you. My gut instinct is telling me the same thing. . If she doesnt come to the party its over. Cant lay down our dignity for any woman but shes got a last chance.
 

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Well I kept my cool texted her then rang her. The date is on tommorow. Its happenning. The theory is right...avoid wussiness and keep manliness right to the end. Always keep it together ...thanks all.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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