She makes plans but denies mine

[JonnyD123]

Not really sure if this is an issue or not, but not typical of girls I’ve dated.

In the past I always wait for the girl to initiate contact, in which case I set up a date and time for us to meet up. This girl however will initiate contact, but deny my plans. She will then come up with her own plans that involve us both. Like I said, not really sure if this is an issue, because we’re still hooking up and having sex, but just kind of something weird I picked up on.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Sounds pretty dominant to me. As long as you are having fun and hooking up, I don't see the problem. But to me it would disqualify her from becoming anything more - she sounds like she'd want to wear the pants in any relationship and be very inflexible. Either that or she's using a "system".

 

[Spaz]

Nothing weird, girls do it all the time. In the long run you'll both end up arguing, even where to have dinner.

It's your frame that needs improving.

In the future, when she suggests plans contary to yours, simply agree to do that the next time you've out and then inform her you've sticking to your plans.

Example; you wanted to have dinner at KFC and she wants MCDONALD'S. Agree with her and say it's a good idea for next time because tonight you want KFC.

You maintain your frame whilst not offending her at the same time. She'll respect you for that.

 

[Mazer]

Low interest my friend, two chicks this year tried to change the venue on me, I told them no and they both ghosted me. Its more about the "place" to her than the company. A girl with high interest will go any place of your choosing. She wouldnt want to risk pissing you off.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Not really sure if this is an issue or not, but not typical of girls I’ve dated.

In the past I always wait for the girl to initiate contact, in which case I set up a date and time for us to meet up. This girl however will initiate contact, but deny my plans. She will then come up with her own plans that involve us both. Like I said, not really sure if this is an issue, because we’re still hooking up and having sex, but just kind of something weird I picked up on.

This is what you get when you act passive and wait for her to contact you.

Here's a novel thought: be assertive and call her (not text) and ask her out. Make the plan like a man and you won't have this problem. Tell her what when where and how, like a confident male should.

I can't believe I have to even say this.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Sounds pretty dominant to me. As long as you are having fun and hooking up, I don't see the problem. But to me it would disqualify her from becoming anything more - she sounds like she'd want to wear the pants in any relationship and be very inflexible. Either that or she's using a "system".

A "system" ensure things on her terms and territory.

 

[Masculinity]

Not really sure if this is an issue or not, but not typical of girls I’ve dated.

In the past I always wait for the girl to initiate contact, in which case I set up a date and time for us to meet up. This girl however will initiate contact, but deny my plans. She will then come up with her own plans that involve us both. Like I said, not really sure if this is an issue, because we’re still hooking up and having sex, but just kind of something weird I picked up on.

Bang her while it's your turn, man.

 

[RangerMIke]

Sounds pretty dominant to me. As long as you are having fun and hooking up, I don't see the problem. But to me it would disqualify her from becoming anything more - she sounds like she'd want to wear the pants in any relationship and be very inflexible. Either that or she's using a "system".

Yea as long as what she is planning is something you want to do I don't see a problem. However, the minute she starts trying to get you to go cat lady tea parties or some such BS... then you need to just back off and let her do those things alone... then you go do stuff you like.