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She lives 20 minutes away...

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Ok so I finally manned up and got the chick I've been eyeing's number in one my university classes, turns out she is a commuter student and lives like 20 minutes away. I'm worried that this could cause problems because of distance, like I usually just like to chill but if she doesn't live on campus it's hard to just be informal. Anyone have any ideas or similar experiences.
 

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Originally posted by Atreides05
Ok so I finally manned up and got the chick I've been eyeing's number in one my university classes, turns out she is a commuter student and lives like 20 minutes away. I'm worried that this could cause problems because of distance, like I usually just like to chill but if she doesn't live on campus it's hard to just be informal. Anyone have any ideas or similar experiences.
wow, twenty minutes? I would kill for a chance for my girlfriend to live twenty minutes from me. I live two and a half hours from her :woo:

I suggest go for it though. You just give her a call up and say "Hey, I'm going x,y, and z. Wanna go" and even if she doesn't go. Go yourself so you can say "Yeah I went to X, Y, and Z and had a blast. I am doing this at such and such a time doing A, B, and C. Wanna come"
 

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Originally posted by Atreides05
Ok so I finally manned up and got the chick I've been eyeing's number in one my university classes, turns out she is a commuter student and lives like 20 minutes away. I'm worried that this could cause problems because of distance, like I usually just like to chill but if she doesn't live on campus it's hard to just be informal. Anyone have any ideas or similar experiences.
What? i am currently dating a woman who lives in another country, we see each other about once a week.
 

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my fiance and i lived 6 hours apart for almost a year.
 

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Originally posted by Atreides05
Ok so I finally manned up and got the chick I've been eyeing's number in one my university classes, turns out she is a commuter student and lives like 20 minutes away. I'm worried that this could cause problems because of distance, like I usually just like to chill but if she doesn't live on campus it's hard to just be informal. Anyone have any ideas or similar experiences.
20 minutes? Unless she lives on a main road, thats probably ten-twelve miles maximum.

You are seriously limiting your field if you only date girls from your town/village.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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One quick and relatively simple way to shorten the distance would be to kidnap and lock her in your basement.
 

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Re: Re: She lives 20 minutes away...

Originally posted by aftershock
20 minutes? Unless she lives on a main road, thats probably ten-twelve miles maximum.

You are seriously limiting your field if you only date girls from your town/village.
And dating women from your own town could be hazardous to your health. :p
 
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