"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She lives 20 minutes away...

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Ok so I finally manned up and got the chick I've been eyeing's number in one my university classes, turns out she is a commuter student and lives like 20 minutes away. I'm worried that this could cause problems because of distance, like I usually just like to chill but if she doesn't live on campus it's hard to just be informal. Anyone have any ideas or similar experiences.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by Atreides05
Ok so I finally manned up and got the chick I've been eyeing's number in one my university classes, turns out she is a commuter student and lives like 20 minutes away. I'm worried that this could cause problems because of distance, like I usually just like to chill but if she doesn't live on campus it's hard to just be informal. Anyone have any ideas or similar experiences.
wow, twenty minutes? I would kill for a chance for my girlfriend to live twenty minutes from me. I live two and a half hours from her :woo:

I suggest go for it though. You just give her a call up and say "Hey, I'm going x,y, and z. Wanna go" and even if she doesn't go. Go yourself so you can say "Yeah I went to X, Y, and Z and had a blast. I am doing this at such and such a time doing A, B, and C. Wanna come"
 

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Originally posted by Atreides05
Ok so I finally manned up and got the chick I've been eyeing's number in one my university classes, turns out she is a commuter student and lives like 20 minutes away. I'm worried that this could cause problems because of distance, like I usually just like to chill but if she doesn't live on campus it's hard to just be informal. Anyone have any ideas or similar experiences.
What? i am currently dating a woman who lives in another country, we see each other about once a week.
 

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my fiance and i lived 6 hours apart for almost a year.
 

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Originally posted by Atreides05
Ok so I finally manned up and got the chick I've been eyeing's number in one my university classes, turns out she is a commuter student and lives like 20 minutes away. I'm worried that this could cause problems because of distance, like I usually just like to chill but if she doesn't live on campus it's hard to just be informal. Anyone have any ideas or similar experiences.
20 minutes? Unless she lives on a main road, thats probably ten-twelve miles maximum.

You are seriously limiting your field if you only date girls from your town/village.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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One quick and relatively simple way to shorten the distance would be to kidnap and lock her in your basement.
 

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Re: Re: She lives 20 minutes away...

Originally posted by aftershock
20 minutes? Unless she lives on a main road, thats probably ten-twelve miles maximum.

You are seriously limiting your field if you only date girls from your town/village.
And dating women from your own town could be hazardous to your health. :p
 
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