“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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She likes me but I'm not attracted to her.

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Guys,

I met a girl through a political campaign, and we talked quite a bit for a few hours. I think she is interesting, and attractive, personally. I am not physically attracted to her because she is chubby. If she lost 15-20 pounds then maybe. I just don't feel that spark of attraction. I am just not into overweight girls, I guess.

A mutual friend called me today and said that she was asking about me, and that we should hang out. He sent me her phone number.

Should I feel physiclaly attracted to someone before starting something with a girl? Because to be honest I felt sick when my friend said that she liked me. Not only because I wasn't attracted to her but also because I was now in a situation where I could potentially hurt someone.

I am a novice with women, but I just don't feel it. And I don't want to hurt her. Any suggestions as to what I should do? Thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tell her to lose 15 lbs. first, then you'll go out with her.
 
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Let her down easy, man.

Politics isn't the best avenue for meeting hot women. Something will open up down the road.
 
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I guess this is how girls feel when they are asked out by someone they are not attracted to.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hang out with her, but you don't have to do anything. Never bad to have a girl around that is totally into you. She probably has hot friends, and you'll have an in by being nice to her.

Expand that network!!!
 
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ShizamDaMan said:
Hang out with her, but you don't have to do anything. Never bad to have a girl around that is totally into you. She probably has hot friends, and you'll have an in by being nice to her.

Expand that network!!!
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Why would she want anything to do with me or want to introduce me to her friends if I reject her? Have you been in this situation?
 
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say something like "you are like a little sister to me" or something else along pook's ******** lines.
 
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leoncour said:
Why would she want anything to do with me or want to introduce me to her friends if I reject her? Have you been in this situation?
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This situation happened to me last semester.

Anyways, you don't have to exactly "reject" her. Just hang out with her, and say "I'm glad we can just be friends" and things like that. She'll get the hint. And if she tries asking you out, just say you're busy and you'll go another time. And if you do decide to go out, do it as friends, and try to make sure you don't do any flirting or anything seductive. Sooner or later you'll be come great friends and I'm sure she'll introduce you to her friends. :)

Last semester, this big girl, maybe 190lbs., was interested in me and I decided to just become friends with her. And within two weeks, she mentioned she had a friend that I might like. So she hooked us up, and me and that girl hit it off wonderfully. We date for three months, and those three months were some of the best days of my life. Having female friends can be pretty helpful at times.
 
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Could I get some more replies to this? Most of the repliers were trolls.:down:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Let her down easy, man.

Politics isn't the best avenue for meeting hot women. Something will open up down the road.
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No kidding. even Bill Clinton had to settle for a chubby.
 
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LOL. If you think Monica was the ONLY thing Bill had going, well...

...damn, Clinton ruled. I miss that guy.


OK as for the original post, I feel for ya, man. I have serious issues when it comes to turning women down... which have hurt me in actually approaching other women that I like.

Just tell her that you're not interested in her that way, but you like her as a friend. She won't like it, but she'll get over it. Do NOT let the whole thing just sit there, as that will make it worse for her.
 
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