"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She likes me but I'm not attracted to her.

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Guys,

I met a girl through a political campaign, and we talked quite a bit for a few hours. I think she is interesting, and attractive, personally. I am not physically attracted to her because she is chubby. If she lost 15-20 pounds then maybe. I just don't feel that spark of attraction. I am just not into overweight girls, I guess.

A mutual friend called me today and said that she was asking about me, and that we should hang out. He sent me her phone number.

Should I feel physiclaly attracted to someone before starting something with a girl? Because to be honest I felt sick when my friend said that she liked me. Not only because I wasn't attracted to her but also because I was now in a situation where I could potentially hurt someone.

I am a novice with women, but I just don't feel it. And I don't want to hurt her. Any suggestions as to what I should do? Thanks.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Tell her to lose 15 lbs. first, then you'll go out with her.
 
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Let her down easy, man.

Politics isn't the best avenue for meeting hot women. Something will open up down the road.
 
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I guess this is how girls feel when they are asked out by someone they are not attracted to.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Hang out with her, but you don't have to do anything. Never bad to have a girl around that is totally into you. She probably has hot friends, and you'll have an in by being nice to her.

Expand that network!!!
 
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ShizamDaMan said:
Hang out with her, but you don't have to do anything. Never bad to have a girl around that is totally into you. She probably has hot friends, and you'll have an in by being nice to her.

Expand that network!!!
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Why would she want anything to do with me or want to introduce me to her friends if I reject her? Have you been in this situation?
 
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say something like "you are like a little sister to me" or something else along pook's ******** lines.
 
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leoncour said:
Why would she want anything to do with me or want to introduce me to her friends if I reject her? Have you been in this situation?
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This situation happened to me last semester.

Anyways, you don't have to exactly "reject" her. Just hang out with her, and say "I'm glad we can just be friends" and things like that. She'll get the hint. And if she tries asking you out, just say you're busy and you'll go another time. And if you do decide to go out, do it as friends, and try to make sure you don't do any flirting or anything seductive. Sooner or later you'll be come great friends and I'm sure she'll introduce you to her friends. :)

Last semester, this big girl, maybe 190lbs., was interested in me and I decided to just become friends with her. And within two weeks, she mentioned she had a friend that I might like. So she hooked us up, and me and that girl hit it off wonderfully. We date for three months, and those three months were some of the best days of my life. Having female friends can be pretty helpful at times.
 
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Could I get some more replies to this? Most of the repliers were trolls.:down:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Let her down easy, man.

Politics isn't the best avenue for meeting hot women. Something will open up down the road.
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No kidding. even Bill Clinton had to settle for a chubby.
 
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LOL. If you think Monica was the ONLY thing Bill had going, well...

...damn, Clinton ruled. I miss that guy.


OK as for the original post, I feel for ya, man. I have serious issues when it comes to turning women down... which have hurt me in actually approaching other women that I like.

Just tell her that you're not interested in her that way, but you like her as a friend. She won't like it, but she'll get over it. Do NOT let the whole thing just sit there, as that will make it worse for her.
 
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