"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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she left me letter after date saying i owe her a dinner

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what happend was i told her we going ruby tuesday but wait was long i didnt wanna miss movie we ate at mall then saw movie. next day she left me letter saying i owe her dinner there. Advice?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm gonna guess that "Ruby" is an expensive place, you took her to a cheaper place and paid for all of it then probably paid for her movie ticket as well. Let's analyze this! :D

What have you proved to her? By paying for her meal and her movie ticket you proved you are willing to pay for her stuff. Now considering you wanted to take her to a more exclusive restaurant and you are probably extremely gullible and ignorant, she has now figured she can (ab)use you. She knows you pay, she knows you're an AFC and since you said you would take her to that place and you didn't, she has figured you owe her that.

So, solution time. You've put yourself in a sticky situation, there's theoretically a chance for you to get this working. Realistically however this chance is slim to none considering your unrefined way of handling dilemmas. So I'm going to make it a choice for you, not one solution but two. There's the hard way, which is to go on that date and whatever happens will not end well for you. It's hard because you will somewhere down the road realize how royally you fvcked up and cry in sheer pain. Then there's the easy way, heed my advice and never talk to this chick again. It's easy because you save yourself the trouble, the pain and the money, but you'll not truly know why I'm giving you this advice.

I recommend the hard way, because not until you (in particular) have dragged yourself through the sh!t will you learn. Then you will understand why we act the way we do, why we rep you badly and why we give you this type of advice.

So yeah, enjoy your date with a gold digger. Don't make a thread about how to get her to pay, even though I know you will regardless of me saying this. Go out and fvck up, it's good for you :D
 

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She's trying to flirt. It's an indication of interest. If you were a total creepo that she couldn't stand, she would not put up with you for another date just to get a free meal.

You didn't quote her letter as saying she owed you a nice dinner. Take her someplace cheap, but make it involve more thought than a food court. It can be a hot dog cart, as long as the point of taking her there is that you are insisting they make the best damn hot dog in the city. Or pick a type of ethnic food, and find a little, out of the way restaurant. You can get away with cheap if you just put some thought and planning into it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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thelonewolflegend said:
how do i know where I should take her dinner or it cost too much?"

PLEASE ADVISE
"I know a nice place for dinner. Come by my place at xxx, bring some wine."
 

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thelonewolflegend said:
so should I never take her out for dinner?
Well if you want to blow a huge load of money on a potential fvck by all means. Better to get her to your place asap if you want to fvck her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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man jus take her to get some food that is cheap. y is this a big hassle?
 

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Dude.. You serious? Learn to think for yourself man. You shouldnt have to constantly come back here asking people to make every little decision for you.
 
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Yes I am SERIOUS HELP! How the f do I know like come on you tell me not to buy her dinner then I should buy her cheap dinner HELP!
 

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You're spending time with a woman and all you can think of is how to deal with the massively huge problem of dinner? You're there to see her, not for the food. If she is there for the food and not to be with you, then you have already failed. If a woman is interested in YOU she won't give sh!t if the food is cheap or not, she won't even give a sh!t if there even is food.

You can draw your own conclusion from that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Can i have serious answer on what i should do then! How do you know when u should take girl nice dinner?
 

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No!! Because I want you to use your fvcking brain and not be a fvcking pain in the a$$. It's your fvcking life, your fvcking responsibility and your fvcking choice.

Are you completely oblivious to the fact that people on here regard you as a retarded idiot? Are you also oblivious to the fact that you have over 650 useless posts? How about the fact your reputation bar is more red than your mother on her period?

I gave you a serious fvcking answer. You expect a logical 1 or 0, yes or no, black or white answer. Let me give you that then, but take this fvcking seriously.

Here it is: DO NOT TAKE WOMAN TO DINNER!
 
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ok i just dont understand howcome no one told me this? and said girls want to be wined and dined every once in a while??????? someone on here said this to me last year
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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