She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"It's the law" is not a justification for a law. What kind of backwards logic is that? Laws should be justified to exist, not justified to be done away with.MacAvoy said:The fact is its the law, men know about it going into a marriage, if they want to avoid paying alimony, they can choose a better wife or have her sign a prenuptial agreement.
Danger said:And the sad thing is, your attorney is correct. At least as far as the current system. However a little activism can go a long way. Don't let others tell you to just give up. All it takes are some politicians with balls to set things right again. Unfortunately they are few and far between
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
WaterTiger said:I think alimony is a very out dated situation. It was a life-saver back in the 1930's-60's when women didn't work outside of the home after marriage. But now women can get their own jobs and support them selves.
Personally, I'd be embarrassed to accept it.
*Alimony should be UNAVAILABLE if the wife filed for divorce.
*Alimony should have a time limit. (No more than 5 years)
Alimony and child support should be based on "fault" by a preponderance of evidence, the same standard for any other civil trial. The problem is judges and courts are generally unjust and unfair. Men should be getting alimony a lot of times.WaterTiger said:I think alimony is a very out dated situation. It was a life-saver back in the 1930's-60's when women didn't work outside of the home after marriage. But now women can get their own jobs and support them selves.
Personally, I'd be embarrassed to accept it.
*Alimony should be UNAVAILABLE if the wife filed for divorce.
*Alimony should have a time limit. (No more than 5 years)
Whats messed up is the women having a history of violance towards the husband that goes ignored, if the women stated the husband was violant she would get 'everything', in this case, his claims still landed his children to be kept in the care of the sick bitc*.Latinoman said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Wrong, it is everyone's role in changing it. The laws were changed into women's favor by public (female) opinion and they can and should be changed back by public opinion. Granted it's not going to happen directly from discussing it on Sosuave, but not too many men are going to succeed if they all ignore things that are detrimental to their success.MacAvoy said:There is no point in debating what the law should be as we don't have a role in changing it.
And we elect judges too. Obviously the feminist mindset and agenda has a strong foothold in government, partly because men allowed them to go ahead with it for so long, so it'd be hard to change it overnight.Danger said:I agree with ketostix, this is horrible advice. We are citizens and we decide the law. For evil to win, all you need do is nothing. Work with legislators, donate money to their campaigns, make sure they hear you and others on these things. Get involved.
Impossible, this will be almost has hard as finding a 40 year old virgin in the western sphere.ketostix said:If you could find a hot woman that hated feminism, you'd be set and free to really raise a stink![]()
the laws were changed because of public opinion AND also with the notion of being progressive. Being progressive means not favoring guys according to these people. When they think of not favroing guys, they tend to overcompensate which is human nature... they will keep overcompensating and attacking men.. that is till a war breaks out and women suddenly need men to defend them again...:kick:ketostix said:Wrong, it is everyone's role in changing it. The laws were changed into women's favor by public (female) opinion and they can and should be changed back by public opinion. Granted it's not going to happen directly from discussing it on Sosuave, but not too many men are going to succeed if they all ignore things that are detrimental to their success.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.