KarmaSutra
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I've yet to see her say anything but the truth and what's really going on.Marcopolo said:
My go-to girl
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
she keeps dumping all her problems on me
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My go-to girl
."So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Rocco, you speak as if you don't need to gain out of the relationship. IF you convey that, then the woman will think she is higher status than you, and consider you only as a friend. IF you make it clear that, although you understand what she is going through, but it shouldn't stop you from having fun, she will pick up on this and realise that you will not accept just being a regular friend.
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Women are emotional creatures - so this is commonplace - the key is why is she telling you? For comfort or for more? You have to determine this.
I usually just tell them my problems and they say "Damn" "You're a mess!" And then they say, "I'll make you forget about your troubles" at the same time that they are disrobing!
Until the ho gives me a disease, which will then add to my database of problems!
I usually just tell them my problems and they say "Damn" "You're a mess!" And then they say, "I'll make you forget about your troubles" at the same time that they are disrobing!
Until the ho gives me a disease, which will then add to my database of problems!
zerocelcius
Master Don Juan
WE HAVE A VENTER! This girl is going to VENT all the time. IF not to you than somebody else. IF you seen her with her mother she would be venting. Her father? Venting.
IF you were just an Emotional Tampon or in the FZ than you (most likely) wouldn’t be eating the fish taco...
The fact that you have sexual relations in any way (still she vents with you) shows that she is a natural venter.
NEWS FLASH> Most girls are (when comfortable...Each Girl has different Comfort Zones) IF she feels comfortable enough to vent with you that is a good sign. However; like you said it is boring and annoying.
I think we all have... except Luke... been in a relationship (of some kind) where that person just felt like you were the person they could talk to.
Obviously you are not serious with her yet, but if things change and you do feel more for her. You might just have to accept that she is a Venter. And since you asked advice on how to make things better I assume (I know, I know) that you do have some interest in staying with her (in some form.)
GO with the C/F stuff. Try not talking on the phone and IMing so much, and when you are together in person stay active. Other than that all you can really do is listen ~ at least for a little while. Than Start leading the Frame.
Nobody wants to dwell on their issues. So eventually (soon) you are going to have to change the subject. Get her to tell you about the good stuff. Also girls don't want guys to offer a solution to their Problems. So treat it like the news. Skim the new stuff, most important stuff, and than change the channel.
IF you were just an Emotional Tampon or in the FZ than you (most likely) wouldn’t be eating the fish taco...
The fact that you have sexual relations in any way (still she vents with you) shows that she is a natural venter.
NEWS FLASH> Most girls are (when comfortable...Each Girl has different Comfort Zones) IF she feels comfortable enough to vent with you that is a good sign. However; like you said it is boring and annoying.
I think we all have... except Luke... been in a relationship (of some kind) where that person just felt like you were the person they could talk to.
Obviously you are not serious with her yet, but if things change and you do feel more for her. You might just have to accept that she is a Venter. And since you asked advice on how to make things better I assume (I know, I know) that you do have some interest in staying with her (in some form.)
GO with the C/F stuff. Try not talking on the phone and IMing so much, and when you are together in person stay active. Other than that all you can really do is listen ~ at least for a little while. Than Start leading the Frame.
Nobody wants to dwell on their issues. So eventually (soon) you are going to have to change the subject. Get her to tell you about the good stuff. Also girls don't want guys to offer a solution to their Problems. So treat it like the news. Skim the new stuff, most important stuff, and than change the channel.
Sean Stock
Don Juan
Girls don´t **** their therapists.
It is your job to make them feel good when their with you.
You´re probably ****ed on this one, but I recomend you sink or swim the whole thing and try to close the deal.
After a few months of relationship, they do **** their therapists, but the ****ign has tome come first.
It is your job to make them feel good when their with you.
You´re probably ****ed on this one, but I recomend you sink or swim the whole thing and try to close the deal.
After a few months of relationship, they do **** their therapists, but the ****ign has tome come first.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dude!!! I hate guys who take that **** and get nothing in return.
Next time you feel like you're talking about her problems to make her feel better you'd better slap yourself. Her talking doesn't make her feel better, it only makes her think somebody else cares. Nothing is really happening, its just prolonging her problem. Seriously, if a girl says shes bored 100 out of 100 times that you talk to her, and you respond only with... "I know how you feel" than nothing is getting better.
Next time you feel like you're talking about her problems to make her feel better you'd better slap yourself. Her talking doesn't make her feel better, it only makes her think somebody else cares. Nothing is really happening, its just prolonging her problem. Seriously, if a girl says shes bored 100 out of 100 times that you talk to her, and you respond only with... "I know how you feel" than nothing is getting better.