"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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She is richer. Will she respect me?

nvictor

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Hello DJs,

It's not a real story. But it's something I'm thinking of. What happen often
in my country is that when the woman is richer, she doesn't respect the
man.

I'm trying to assure myself that, using all DJ's techniques would get rid of
the money problem. But is it true? Is it possible to live with a woman who
has a better paying job, and make her respect you?

Opinions wanted, thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Nasman

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First of all where do you live. Second of all money will not do anything for you with a girl. In the short run yes, but in long run no. I don't care if ur richer than bill gates if a woman marries u only for money she will never respect u and something will always be missing in relationship.
 

gherald

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money is not essential to earn respect...

sure,money will earn you respect but you will also earn it even if you dont...
 

MisterNigma

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Why should money an issue?

Be upfront about what you have, as far as money is concerned, and it shouldn't become an issue. So what if she makes more then you. One thing is for sure, you don't want to get into a relationship where you, or the woman become entirely dependent on each other for finances.

Besides, if she's richer, that means there is no way she can be a gold digger. A gold digger might be fun for a night or two, but would backfire in the longrun.


-E.Nigma
 

Latinoman

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nvictor said:
Hello DJs,

It's not a real story. But it's something I'm thinking of. What happen often
in my country is that when the woman is richer, she doesn't respect the
man.

I'm trying to assure myself that, using all DJ's techniques would get rid of
the money problem. But is it true? Is it possible to live with a woman who
has a better paying job, and make her respect you?

Opinions wanted, thanks
Having a better paying job is NOT the same as being "richer".
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thomas94305

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I've dated someone who is much richer than me. First, I don't make a big deal of it. Second, it's a test on her, can she be a good friend, encouraging, respectful, etc.. given she has cash? If so.. cool. If not, my lot is not better off if I keep her around. Recommend you stick to what you are looking for in a companion, and continue to look for that from any rich or non-rich woman.
 

nvictor

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Have you thought of the case you are invited to a party with her co-workers??
By rich, I mean really, really rich. Millionaire. These people act and do different things all the time...
 

dj ben2

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when u get a millionaire GF you may have to change a few things but right now DW aobut it and stop being insecure.
 

BlackJackal

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Man make the money, money never made the man. Even if you do have more money, you need to let these chicks no that they should only worry about you, and let you worry about your money. If she's too good to respect you then dont waste time on her. Respect is everything.
 

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I dont even let anyone including my good male friends know how much I make. Why would I? Its not anyones business except your own.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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It'll only be an issue if you use money as a measurment of your self worth.
 

THE_ADDMAN

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
It'll only be an issue if you use money as a measurment of your self worth.

exactly

Better question is
"She is richer, do I respect myself?"
 

Thomas94305

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Props to Francisco.. it's a non-issue. If she makes it an issue, then I'd make her behavior the issue.
 
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