"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She is playing hard to get

The Great One

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So I am planning on just not talking to her at all tomorrow, maybe just a quick hello in the morning instead of the multiple short conversations I normally have with her througout the day. Anyone have any other advice?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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maybe she just dosent like you, did she ever seem intrested?, did she stop?, its a toss up, just know when youve been defeated
 

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Oh, I know, she seems very interested. So much so that even all of my friends are telling me that they think she is interested in me. We exchanged numbers and all, and hung out once with a group of people, I am just looking for an actual date now, so I figured I would throw her off a little bit by not really talking to her tomorrow.
 

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Worked pretty well:

Saw her in the morning, made her walk me to class instead of me walking her to her class.

Saw her in the middle of the day, walked past her and acted like I didn't hear her when she said hi.

At the end of the day, I saw her and said "Wow, didn't really see you today. Let's go grab a bite to eat." She accepted, but we ended up running into a group of friends from school so we ended up sitting and eating with them. I just need to get this girl alone, which is proving to be pretty difficult.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just ask her out. Stop with the 'i'm not going to talk to her much today and throw her off'. They are stupid games, girls play games. Men Don't.

Ask her out on a date - if shes interested she will say yes - theres nothing difficult about it.
 

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Sammo said:
Ask her out on a date - if shes interested she will say yes - theres nothing difficult about it.
That is what the plan was for the end of the day today, but my luck never seems to be with me and we end up in groups. Out of the two times we have hung out, both ended up in group situations. :cuss:
 

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rent a movie (scary = kino) and invite her over. maybe if you're a little lucky, "groups" won't be waiting for you at your house. heh.
 
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