"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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she is mad......gave me the ring back

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My gf gave me her engagement ring back. She is extremely mad because she things I chat with girls.......dirty talk. The truth is, that is far from truth. Need help and advice. I have to add that we had a physical fight. She bit my arm and slap me on my face. I returned it to her and now things are ugly
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Be thankful you didn't make it to the alter with her. Take the ring back and buy yourself something nice....including a face mask and a bite proof shirt. Wear that stuff when you tell her the ring has been returned.
In all seriousness I wouldn't be giving her that ring back unless she begged for it....even then I don't know....she sounds a little unstable....I think you may have dodged a bullet bud.
Count your blessings that her true colors came out before the wedding.
 

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she is unstable. She is a good person, but she has a character that is though as a rock. That was the 3 or 4th time she hit me on the face....... that irritated me, I had never hit her before......I feel bad about that.

We live together right now......it has been like that since November.

I get your point........she is unstable and that is very dangerous.

Question is......what are the odds for her to cool down?

She is gone.....came home and went out 3 hours ago because i was trying to talk to her. If I tried to touch her, she acted as if I had some infectious disease. Didnt want me to touch her.

Im 35 and she is 27
 

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Why would you want to marry a gal that has hit you on multiple occasions?
Think about how she's gonna ream you over the coals when she wants a divorce.
You need to move out........yesterday.
 

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I have done bad too...... She is just jealous because Im always using the laptop, thats why she thinks I have something to hide. The times she has done so, its been because she has been jealous. Nothing else.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Its not like she is an evil witch and Im a white sheep. But she is wrong, there is no girl........not even the intention. I came to this site because I used to come here before......I was a don juan.......not anymore........thats why she is always jelous........she knows my past.
 

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Why are you making excuses for a jealous woman?
Jealousy is a sickness that can lead to no good...although I'm sure your red cheek is a clear indicator of that. Be thankful she hasn't chopped your pecker off......yet.
Anyway....you need to re-evaluate your whole relationship.....this is the first time you have hit her right? I'd say she doesn't exactly bring out the best in you....in fact...she has driven you to do something that you normally would not do....so again.....why would you want to spend the rest of your life with her? What if she brings out that side of you again?
Who's to say that next time she won't use more force in turn causing you to use more force if you can't bring yourself to walk away?
Sounds like an ugly picture I'm painting but I don't think it's far fetched.
You need to get out while you can.........RUN.

P.S. I never said she was an evil witch.....she's unstable....and that can be dangerous.
 

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your words are full of truth.......but........ im willing to try again.........I love her, she loves me.......

I completely understand what you are saying......I do think you are right.

Question again........what should i do to fix our relationship, I mean, to make peace and start again.

Do you think she could come back with me? or that is not possible anymore?
 

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I making excuses because in part Im guilty......we both have been guilty.

When women give you the ring back.......is that a point of no return?
I dont think so..........do you?
 

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Dear Doc Halliday,
You are very fortunate to have found out about this Ladies violent streak.Hell could freeze over before there was any hope for your relationship further whilst I always take the line that you can generally salvage something from any relationship,violence is just sooo dangerous for you ......Do not delay,change the locks and ask her to pick up any remaining gear,and have someone present when she does....It is very easy for a violent female to turn the tables on you,claiming you are the violent one,then you will be the one going to jail,gaining a CRIMINAL record,and being excluded from your own premises...Just walk away,and thank your lucky stars...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Well....it sounds to me like your balls are in her purse.
If she is in the wrong on this and you are innocent then why the hell are you worried about her coming back to you? You should be pissed off as hell that she is accusing you of this crap and you should be giving her the cold shoulder and making her MAKE IT UP TO YOU! Not kissing her ass and acting worried about whether or not she is going to come back.
As if. She's in the wrong bud and if she can't see that she needs to make it up to you (including some serious make-up sex) then you don't want her in your life. PERIOD.
That should be your mind frame right now....at the very least.
But I still say that your relationship is not healthy and if you two really want to make it work then you should get to counseling.

EDIT - Ok....I was writing at the same time as you.....so what are you guilty of?
 

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Doc Holliday73 said:
I have done bad too...... She is just jealous because Im always using the laptop, thats why she thinks I have something to hide. The times she has done so, its been because she has been jealous. Nothing else.


Wow, you have the blinders on sooo bad its not even funny!!! This chick is TOXIC and your trapped in her world, so you keep making excuses for her!!!

Someone who is mentally unstable is NOT LTR material bro. You can do better than her and you deserve better. Get your emotions and soul out of the matrix before it consumes you.

Your life will be a living hell if you marry this woman, mark my words!! Run don't look back and start the healing process.




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I am probably the biggest WBAFC on this board, and even I drew the line when my former girlfriend started slapping me and throwing stuff at me.
 

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Dude self love comes first? The first time a girl raise her hand the relationship is over. I don't care what the situation is because she has lost all respect for you.

It don't matter what we say here you are going to take her back and keep going through these slap outs until you get sick of it and move on.

It's not about love anymore these days bro, it's about respect.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I have met supposed societal "gender change" theories with some skepticism, but threads like this are good evidence.
 
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I don't see this as societal gender change, I see this as abuse. Abuse is abuse is abuse. Abusers and enablers come in both genders. Doc holliday, run as if your heels were on fire and your a$$ was catching. Leopards don't change their spots. Run while you still can. See this as a clean break. Use this opportunity for learning self-respect.
 

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A womans nature shouldn't be agressive!!
 
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