"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She is always flirting.

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I have this chick and she is so desperate to be my GF. She keeps calling herself that. However, we work together and there is another coworker at the job, who is now her supervisor, that she used to sleep with. I am working in another department, and I see her flirting with other customers and laughing with the supervisor. I am cool with that. However, she was hitting him in a flirty manner. I play it cool and not mention it. How do I deal with this situation?


Ps, this is putting me in a bad place. I am stressed out dealing with this, but sometimes too stressed to feel like going out to find other options.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Attention wh0re. Nothing more. There should be no reason for you to stress over ONE girl. Let alone this girl. Start seeing and talking to other girls. This is the CURE for this "boyfriend and girlfriend"-itis your feeling.

In the meantime since your new. Please check out the DJ (Don Juan) Bible.

Link: http://www.nick-hill.com/djb/

This collaboration of many articles from this site gives you ALL the answers your seeking right at your fingertips.

Again, move on from her because it will only make you feel worse and when she finds out your like a little puppy to her. She will either take advantage of your feeling or just drop you because your showing DESPERATION!

Girls can sniff desperation miles away. They hate this.

Hope this helps.
 
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Reno89 said:
I have this chick and she is so desperate to be my GF. She keeps calling herself that. However, we work together and there is another coworker at the job, who is now her supervisor, that she used to sleep with. I am working in another department, and I see her flirting with other customers and laughing with the supervisor. I am cool with that. However, she was hitting him in a flirty manner. I play it cool and not mention it. How do I deal with this situation?

Ps, this is putting me in a bad place. I am stressed out dealing with this, but sometimes too stressed to feel like going out to find other options.
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How do you deal with the situation?

If you want her, then get her outside of the office for some drinks and stop playing "flirting games" with her. I'm assuming that you're not actually dating her (as in, sleeping with her) because it sounds like you're not.

If you don't want her, then proceed as usual. I mean, if she's not actually YOURS, then why shouldn't she flirt with whoever she wants?

DISCLAIMER: Most people would recommend AGAINST dating in the office.
 
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@Iceberg, we have been sleeping together for the last 5 months.

@bcolon, She is the only one that wants a relationship
 
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Hehehe i think you are being played! I hope the puzzy is worth it! :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Doesn't seem to me like you are "cool with it" if her flirting is making it so you can't go out and find new women. If it's bothering you, walk away from it. Women will run jealousy tactics because they know how the human brain works. These things increase attraction. They only work if you let them though. Right now, you seeing her doing these things is only hurting you. Either cut her off, find someone new, or pursue her as more than an FB. I don't understand how you can not want a relationship with someone then get upset when they flirt with other people. You sound like a woman.
 
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So she wants a relationship, you don't, but you're jealous of her flirting with others...
 
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So let me get this straight. Even though she is feeling up on another dude while I am around, I should not feel disrespected?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah. If this girl likes you a lot she is teasing you or playing games with you to get you:

a) jealous
b) desperate for her pvssy
c) lost interest
d) use you as an 'make me feel good tampon'

Go ghost. Once you do that it's either she likes you enough and she will call and want to be around you.
 
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If she doesn't contact you then you know your answer. If she does then continue to smash but do not dwell on this girl. Spin more plates.
 
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