Hey guys, I met this girl and texted with her for like two weeks everyday. Then she stopped responding all of a sudden. After two or three texts with no response, I stopped as well. A week later, she called me to see if I wanted to hang out but I wasn't in town that day. After I came back, I texted her and again no response. I decided to call her but also no response. So I sent out this text "This is boring. I will stop texting." No response. Then again we stopped talking. I kinda regret sending that last text. It's gonna make me look like a total loser if I text her again -- breaking my own words. Is there anything else I can try? Should I move on?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She Ignores My Text
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Why were you texting her for two weeks everyday? She has slotted you into the "friends" part of her brain.Sieg Yang said:
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After stating that you were done texting her, you kind of painted yourself into a corner. Now you can't text her or you'll look ridiculous. She'll probably contact you in a week or so and want to chat.Sieg Yang said:
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Your princess is in another castle. Go ghost and if she's interested (don't hold your breath), she'll call.
Case closed. Get out of my court.
Case closed. Get out of my court.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
nismo-4, I am having similar situation. Have gone NC with the girl who's a bad texter for about two weeks. I'm not sure if she will ever contact me again.nismo-4 said:
My question is, what to do when she texts you or call you? She probably will never again. I just want to know just in case she does...
Okay. You can't text a girl for two weeks straight. I'm even surprised she kept responding for that long. Your first text convo should be short and to the point of asking her out. Apply this in the future. You can't build attraction over text. It's faceless, cold and devoid of human feelings that you can generate in person.Sieg Yang said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Give her little attention.LeonSK said: