"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She has a boyfriend.

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Met this hb8 through a friend, found out she has a bf bc of her profile pic. We started talking, she had problems with some sht with signing up for next period at university. Built rapport for a few days.

She wanted me to come over her apt to talk school-related sht(srs), and she said her mother would be visiting(so no fking?). i zoned out and agreed, but flaked and told her i had something came up at the last min.

I invited her for a walk downtown next day, but she said she didn't want to leave her mother alone (shes foreign and her mother is visiting). but wanted to see me and asked me to come to the apt to meet her.

I told her id check if i could next week and get back to her later.
Again she insisted i should come over monday or tuesday.

However i dont plan on doing sht that doesnt involve doing anything i dont want or it has to be under my terms..not even going back to her place, unless its to fvck.
Thoughts? Potential or am i wasting my time? I want her as a plate.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Found out it was a sht test to see if i would still keep gaming her. Going to put her on the back burner for a while, or setup a date next week.
 

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Again she insisted i should come over monday or tuesday.
you meet on neutral grounds then she comes bk to yours or she comes bk to yours full stop

you aint going nowhere for her, its been a busy week at work your tired, if she cant do it, tell her to contact you in 2-3 weeks time and "MAYBE" you can sort something then

shes your bit of fun.............. you are not her bit of fun
 

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If she mentioned sex to you it means she wants to do it with you..you are wasting a lot of sexual opportunities with this girl..be a man and make the move
 

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When a girl is really attracted to a guy, she'll hide the fact that she has a bf or even a husband.

I've had married women come to my hotel room late at night on the pretext of sending some cheques/debit note etc.

I've even had women flying in from a neighbouring country to meet up on the pretext of business but ends up inviting me to their hotel room for some late night "discussion".

When a women wants you, they'll do extremely idiotic things to get you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lol go ahead and hang out with her, meanwhile her mom is with her. You may end up getting free lunch ....
 

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When a women wants you, they'll do extremely idiotic things to get you.
Yeah the brazenness of women who are actively trying to bang you is quite remarkable. Any guy acting this way would immediately turn off most women.
 
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