"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She got really drunk

volkme68

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I was out the other night at a club with a group of friends. A girl I have been gaming was in the group. Everyone was having a great time. Her and I were dancing and making out. I am sure things would have progressed further over the course of the night, but she proceeded to get completely tanked. It was a free drinks til 1am thing and everyone was hammered. We drove back, I peaced out, and a friend took care of her.

Next day, she calls to apologize to me about getting wasted. I truly don't care about it, everyone has those nights, and told her it was no big deal.

How do you guys handle it when a girl your hanging with gets really tanked?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Lord Shinra

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For me its usually the type of drunk she is.

If shes one of those stupid drunks, I leave her at her place and call the next day (if I'm not too busy) or the one after, unless she beats me to it.

If shes a cool drunk, I get almost tanked and begin the bedding protocol.
 

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Yeah I know what you mean. She was to the rediculous, needs to be carried out the club drunk that ended in a 45min puke session. I really didn't mind, but I didn't want to come off as AFC care provider either. Fortunately, a friend of hers was there to make it easyon me. What do you do if there is no friend, but the person really should have some one to take care of them?
 

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ugh, most drunk girls i've met are utterly insane.

it's like they want to experience that song "Just Dance" and they somehow end up with their shirt turned inside out.

If it's someone i like and am friends with, i'll drag them aside, tell them to drink this bottle of water and chill for a few minutes. If she's not better before those minutes are up, i'm calling a cab and sending her home. If she won't listen to me then i won't be responsible and i'll walk away. (Harsh but i'm firm on this.)

honestly, you should know your limits and stay within them, or if you plan on getting tanked, have someone who knows they might have to help if needed.

i've had alot of experiences with overdrinking and drug use, it completely ruins the night for you since you now have to babysit someone.
 

Lord Shinra

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I havent had that situation so far, so I dunno what I would do. Best advice I could give is not let them get that sloppy drunk.

Its a tough situation, because 1, you dont wanna be all AFCish and as you said, not become a AFC careprovider but at the same time, you dont wanna be a completely heartless *******. My advice on it would be to not let her get uber-drunk.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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