Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
TillTheEndOfTime said:1) You should have asked for her number instead of myspace in the beginning...that's weak man.
2) It shows she has a bf? So what? Are they married? They're not married, he's not a friend, so fair game. Why does he deserve her more than you? Because he happened to bump into her first? So what? As long as he is not a jealous psycho who will make getting her dangerous, then go for it.
pvf94 said:Alright, I called her today....she acted all happy that I called. She started conversing basically making it easy for us both to talk. I asked her who she was with, she said mom, brother, and boyfriend.
haha, burn eh?
after that I just said I was callin to see what was goin on, she insisted that I get a class switched to be in one of her's. And the last thing she said was
"you should call me tommarrow or something.." I said alright, and said goodbye.
BOO!! =P
HollowHorizon said:Shes A Bobble Head :yes:... 10 Bucks Says She's Skeezin Up The Neighbor Hood, I'd Mark her As A Typical Attention Wh0Re..... You May Not Wanna Hear It, And You Wont Belive It Till You Find Out..... Hey, Id Even Put Money On It That The B!TCH GOT MORE GUY FRIENDS THAN YOU DO.......
Doctor Hollows Medical Advice....: Make Her Blow, Or Make Her Go, Because She's Just A Ho.......
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dude shes only 16...im sure the sex is not an issue atm... If thats the problem I can set up a date with her and do my best to get physical. But I want to know if its safe to call her today seeing as to the fact that she said to call her. Or just ignore the fact that she said i SHOULD call. And not call her. Let her do the contacting. ???DJF or John said:pvf94, it's obvious you didn't understand what I posted
Go and re-read it, and come back and reply or pm me.
You will LOSE.
You know why?
You aren't embracing your sexuality, you aren't tryign to fulfill her needs sexually, you are trying to fulfill her needs as a BOYFRIEND.
B4 a chick will SERIOUSLY take a guy as a boyfriend, he MUST pass the great fvck value proposition first.
Do you understand what I am saying? I know it's quite different, but different is discovery.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
This is good insight and what happens to many dudes here!DJF or John said:pvf94, what I am "afraid" of with you is this.
Even though you are causing yourself misery by doinig what you are doing, as I said before, you are creatign a HABIT.
You are thinking about this girl ALOT, you have her on your mind ALOT.
This forms a HABIT, and you become ATTACHED to this girl.
This is terrible!
Because eventually, this girl is goign to be gone. Eventually, you will see her kissing another guy, etc, etc.
You will be hurt, you will have suicide feelings. And you know how all that started?
Because you created this HABIT! You formed this monster!
Get the fvck out of the matrix NOW!! I mean...it might even be too late honestly. Because I already told you this and you still wish to FIGHT to get her.
So....I mean dude. I don't know what else to tell you. I know you are 19 but I know you can understand what I am saying, but maybe the HABIT is already formed and now, well....you just can't get out of it.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.