You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
TillTheEndOfTime said:1) You should have asked for her number instead of myspace in the beginning...that's weak man.
2) It shows she has a bf? So what? Are they married? They're not married, he's not a friend, so fair game. Why does he deserve her more than you? Because he happened to bump into her first? So what? As long as he is not a jealous psycho who will make getting her dangerous, then go for it.
pvf94 said:Alright, I called her today....she acted all happy that I called. She started conversing basically making it easy for us both to talk. I asked her who she was with, she said mom, brother, and boyfriend.
haha, burn eh?
after that I just said I was callin to see what was goin on, she insisted that I get a class switched to be in one of her's. And the last thing she said was
"you should call me tommarrow or something.." I said alright, and said goodbye.
BOO!! =P
HollowHorizon said:Shes A Bobble Head :yes:... 10 Bucks Says She's Skeezin Up The Neighbor Hood, I'd Mark her As A Typical Attention Wh0Re..... You May Not Wanna Hear It, And You Wont Belive It Till You Find Out..... Hey, Id Even Put Money On It That The B!TCH GOT MORE GUY FRIENDS THAN YOU DO.......
Doctor Hollows Medical Advice....: Make Her Blow, Or Make Her Go, Because She's Just A Ho.......
~Best Reguards....... Hollow~![]()
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dude shes only 16...im sure the sex is not an issue atm... If thats the problem I can set up a date with her and do my best to get physical. But I want to know if its safe to call her today seeing as to the fact that she said to call her. Or just ignore the fact that she said i SHOULD call. And not call her. Let her do the contacting. ???DJF or John said:pvf94, it's obvious you didn't understand what I posted
Go and re-read it, and come back and reply or pm me.
You will LOSE.
You know why?
You aren't embracing your sexuality, you aren't tryign to fulfill her needs sexually, you are trying to fulfill her needs as a BOYFRIEND.
B4 a chick will SERIOUSLY take a guy as a boyfriend, he MUST pass the great fvck value proposition first.
Do you understand what I am saying? I know it's quite different, but different is discovery.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
This is good insight and what happens to many dudes here!DJF or John said:pvf94, what I am "afraid" of with you is this.
Even though you are causing yourself misery by doinig what you are doing, as I said before, you are creatign a HABIT.
You are thinking about this girl ALOT, you have her on your mind ALOT.
This forms a HABIT, and you become ATTACHED to this girl.
This is terrible!
Because eventually, this girl is goign to be gone. Eventually, you will see her kissing another guy, etc, etc.
You will be hurt, you will have suicide feelings. And you know how all that started?
Because you created this HABIT! You formed this monster!
Get the fvck out of the matrix NOW!! I mean...it might even be too late honestly. Because I already told you this and you still wish to FIGHT to get her.
So....I mean dude. I don't know what else to tell you. I know you are 19 but I know you can understand what I am saying, but maybe the HABIT is already formed and now, well....you just can't get out of it.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.