"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

She "forgot" her phone? Setting up a real date...

baurman

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 20, 2006
Messages
235
Reaction score
7
So I called this chick I'm trying to hook up with once and left her a message because she didn't answer. I wasn't about to call her again and just waited for her to return my call. Finally, she returned my call the next day apologizing and saying she forgot her phone at work. I asked her if she wanted to do anything this week but she tells me that she is busy because she has a big project due for school that she needs to pull an 'all nighter' and finish. Fine. Sounds believable...or maybe? Anyways, how should I set up an ACTUAL date? Because now she's saying she will call me. But I'll call her on Friday or something and I just want to set something up where we can go out. Not none of this "I'll call you when I want to do something" bullsh!t.

Oh, and one thing I found out. My friend was talking to her and he was saying how he goes clubbing and he knows all the bouncers. Well. She asked him if he could get her in. And he's all trying to hit on her saying "Yeah.. give me your number and we can hang out" and they both exchanged numbers. How do I work around this? I'm pretty pissed about it because he even told me that he doesn't even want a relationship with her, he just wants to **** with her. I told him that I WANT to date her and he's like "WHAT? Oh well, whoever gets her first..."
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

window

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 25, 2007
Messages
472
Reaction score
7
When she called you back you should have been prepared and asked her out to do somthing on a particular day that you had in mind....not "would you like to do something this week ?" this is a weak pitch. If she sais she is busy or doesn't like your idea (and sais for example come and join me and my friends at the club on Sat night, I'll see you there) and doesn't come back with a counter offer throw her number away and forget about her.

Don't try and be her friend.

Find a girl that has a high interest in you and sais "yes that sounds great, here's my address...I'll see you then"
 

baurman

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 20, 2006
Messages
235
Reaction score
7
so saying "you want to join my friends and I at the club on saturday?" would be better? if she denies this then I'll just next her. I feel that if she was interested in me, even if she was 'busy' she would still make time to spend with me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

window

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 25, 2007
Messages
472
Reaction score
7
No, I'm saying if she sais this to you she's basically turning you down and towing you along. She has to agree with your idea for the date and she has to show up....never ask a girl out to a club imo.

Learn from this and move on. Don't call her. If she calls you she has to suggest getting together, but just the two of you.
 
Top