"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She "forgot" her phone? Setting up a real date...

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So I called this chick I'm trying to hook up with once and left her a message because she didn't answer. I wasn't about to call her again and just waited for her to return my call. Finally, she returned my call the next day apologizing and saying she forgot her phone at work. I asked her if she wanted to do anything this week but she tells me that she is busy because she has a big project due for school that she needs to pull an 'all nighter' and finish. Fine. Sounds believable...or maybe? Anyways, how should I set up an ACTUAL date? Because now she's saying she will call me. But I'll call her on Friday or something and I just want to set something up where we can go out. Not none of this "I'll call you when I want to do something" bullsh!t.

Oh, and one thing I found out. My friend was talking to her and he was saying how he goes clubbing and he knows all the bouncers. Well. She asked him if he could get her in. And he's all trying to hit on her saying "Yeah.. give me your number and we can hang out" and they both exchanged numbers. How do I work around this? I'm pretty pissed about it because he even told me that he doesn't even want a relationship with her, he just wants to **** with her. I told him that I WANT to date her and he's like "WHAT? Oh well, whoever gets her first..."
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When she called you back you should have been prepared and asked her out to do somthing on a particular day that you had in mind....not "would you like to do something this week ?" this is a weak pitch. If she sais she is busy or doesn't like your idea (and sais for example come and join me and my friends at the club on Sat night, I'll see you there) and doesn't come back with a counter offer throw her number away and forget about her.

Don't try and be her friend.

Find a girl that has a high interest in you and sais "yes that sounds great, here's my address...I'll see you then"
 

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so saying "you want to join my friends and I at the club on saturday?" would be better? if she denies this then I'll just next her. I feel that if she was interested in me, even if she was 'busy' she would still make time to spend with me.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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No, I'm saying if she sais this to you she's basically turning you down and towing you along. She has to agree with your idea for the date and she has to show up....never ask a girl out to a club imo.

Learn from this and move on. Don't call her. If she calls you she has to suggest getting together, but just the two of you.
 
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