I dont get it. this girl always went out of her way to talk to me, flirted with me, asked me what my mother thought of her future daughter-in-law, said I was her favorite guy at work, joked around about us in a relationship, etc etc. I asked for her phone number, and she said "what?" then "no" in a surprised, caught off-guard kind of way. My question... what the hell happened?? she genuinely seemed interested in me. I've never felt this way about anyone before, and I'm really pissed about this. I feel almost betrayed.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She flirted heavily, but rejected me
- Thread starter wizard28
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
Dude, you are taking things far too seriously ... Relax...
the funny thing is, she flirts with me just as much now as she did before I asked for her phone number. do you think maybe she said no to create some tension but really was interested? because if this girl wasn't interested, she wouldn't have done half the things she did. she only flirts like this with me, it's not like she does this with other guys.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
Just because she wouldn't give you her phone number doesn't mean she has rejected you. Look at her actions, not her words.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
Apparently you need to go read the DJ bible; if you had you would know know that you shouldn't take everything a woman says literally nor should you always take everything she does personally.Originally posted by wizard28
what the hell are you talking about? I asked for her phone number, she said no. that's not rejection? eat me buddy
rgeere
Master Don Juan
That, and her signs say that she is otherwise interested. There could have been a host of reasons why she wouldn't give it to you, and not all of them are against you.
TheCarGuyA4
Don Juan
Man maybe she just doesn't like giving guys her number, try just asking her out instead of her number...and for futue reference, when someone is taking the time to give you advice...don't tell them to eat you.
Don_Joffe
Senior Don Juan
Dont say Ive never felt this way about anyone...thats B.S talk. Love is Conditional - Go read the Quick Tip.
AND now...
Try asking for her number again, if she says "no" again , ask her why not? Then let me know what she says...
AND now...
Try asking for her number again, if she says "no" again , ask her why not? Then let me know what she says...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
And that's exactly the problem, personalization and assuming that everything a person does is against you. He wouldn't have said 'eat me' otherwise.Originally posted by TheCarGuyA4
when someone is taking the time to give you advice...don't tell them to eat you.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
Like I said, for any number of reasons that probably arn't against you. She could live with her parents and shy of boys calling, or she was PMSing and didn't want people to talk to her outside of work...Originally posted by wizard28
okay, but you're not getting it. if she was interested, she WOULD have given me her number. WHY wouldn't she? Her ACTIONS told me she would, but she didn't.
I am not saying these are the reasons, but they could be.
Blue Phoenix
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Those girls are called ATTENTION WH0RES!
There's nothing left to say.
There's nothing left to say.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Blue Phoenix
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Don't give your attention to her!Originally posted by wizard28
so she's not interested? don't bother asking her out?
well lately I've been ignoring her. I mean, she'll say hi to me, and I will completely ignore her. I don't want to give my power away to her. cuz she will think "wow he's really upset over this"... but I dont wanna be with anyone else. cant stop thinkin about her.
skinnydart
Master Don Juan
Just ask her out dude. If she's at your work, u don't have to make it an official date at least for the first time. I find that lunches are great with people at work. Just say "Hey, Krissa, I'm heading over to Quizno's, why don't you come along" then if things go well you can suggest dinner or something more "date" like.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.