I dont get it. this girl always went out of her way to talk to me, flirted with me, asked me what my mother thought of her future daughter-in-law, said I was her favorite guy at work, joked around about us in a relationship, etc etc. I asked for her phone number, and she said "what?" then "no" in a surprised, caught off-guard kind of way. My question... what the hell happened?? she genuinely seemed interested in me. I've never felt this way about anyone before, and I'm really pissed about this. I feel almost betrayed.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She flirted heavily, but rejected me
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
Dude, you are taking things far too seriously ... Relax...
the funny thing is, she flirts with me just as much now as she did before I asked for her phone number. do you think maybe she said no to create some tension but really was interested? because if this girl wasn't interested, she wouldn't have done half the things she did. she only flirts like this with me, it's not like she does this with other guys.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
Just because she wouldn't give you her phone number doesn't mean she has rejected you. Look at her actions, not her words.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
Apparently you need to go read the DJ bible; if you had you would know know that you shouldn't take everything a woman says literally nor should you always take everything she does personally.Originally posted by wizard28
what the hell are you talking about? I asked for her phone number, she said no. that's not rejection? eat me buddy
rgeere
Master Don Juan
That, and her signs say that she is otherwise interested. There could have been a host of reasons why she wouldn't give it to you, and not all of them are against you.
TheCarGuyA4
Don Juan
Man maybe she just doesn't like giving guys her number, try just asking her out instead of her number...and for futue reference, when someone is taking the time to give you advice...don't tell them to eat you.
Don_Joffe
Senior Don Juan
Dont say Ive never felt this way about anyone...thats B.S talk. Love is Conditional - Go read the Quick Tip.
AND now...
Try asking for her number again, if she says "no" again , ask her why not? Then let me know what she says...
AND now...
Try asking for her number again, if she says "no" again , ask her why not? Then let me know what she says...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
And that's exactly the problem, personalization and assuming that everything a person does is against you. He wouldn't have said 'eat me' otherwise.Originally posted by TheCarGuyA4
when someone is taking the time to give you advice...don't tell them to eat you.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
Like I said, for any number of reasons that probably arn't against you. She could live with her parents and shy of boys calling, or she was PMSing and didn't want people to talk to her outside of work...Originally posted by wizard28
okay, but you're not getting it. if she was interested, she WOULD have given me her number. WHY wouldn't she? Her ACTIONS told me she would, but she didn't.
I am not saying these are the reasons, but they could be.
Blue Phoenix
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Those girls are called ATTENTION WH0RES!
There's nothing left to say.
There's nothing left to say.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Blue Phoenix
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Don't give your attention to her!Originally posted by wizard28
so she's not interested? don't bother asking her out?
well lately I've been ignoring her. I mean, she'll say hi to me, and I will completely ignore her. I don't want to give my power away to her. cuz she will think "wow he's really upset over this"... but I dont wanna be with anyone else. cant stop thinkin about her.
skinnydart
Master Don Juan
Just ask her out dude. If she's at your work, u don't have to make it an official date at least for the first time. I find that lunches are great with people at work. Just say "Hey, Krissa, I'm heading over to Quizno's, why don't you come along" then if things go well you can suggest dinner or something more "date" like.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.