"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She flakes out of the blue? Is this a test?

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8ball

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Hmm..She went out of town this weekend.

I hear from her Friday. (I don't respond).

I hear from her Saturday. (I text a short msg back ..Drive safe.)

Don't hear from her Sunday...and today she called in sick to work, and I don't hear from her all day. We've been dating for 2 months. Before she left, she was talking about sex and going down on me and all that stuff..it's not like her to just fall of the planet and not contact me at all. This is definitely not normal behavior.

In these 2 months, we've never fought, I've always been low key and smooth. Is she trying to get a reaction? What are some opinions? It's just odd...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Johnnyventana

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I don't know. You don't respond at all to her first Friday text. She tries again Saturday and you are super short and cold. She contacted you twice with lackluster results and you expect her to contact you again? For what? More coldness or no response? Would you contact someone who acted like that?

I'm sure she is pissed. What do you expect? I don't think you're doing the bible right.
 
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Johnnyventana said:
I don't know. You don't respond at all to her first Friday text. She tries again Saturday and you are super short and cold. She contacted you twice with lackluster results and you expect her to contact you again? For what? More coldness or no response? Would you contact someone who acted like that?

I'm sure she is pissed. What do you expect? I don't think you're doing the bible right.
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Exactly!

Why are you playing games with her anyway? If you say you've never fought over 2 months, then there's no reason to be cold with her.
 
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I will not assume you're playing games, but to their credit, Jariel, John have my agreeance.

There is no merit in pressing games into a dynamic that carried none to begin with. If she is your girl, I am unaware of what you believe ignoring her will do for you.
If you were under the belief it would build attraction, you 'd have to explain that to me, because in this particular context, non-contact or disinterest is not warranted.

The worst thing you want is to inspire her will to play games, through your doing so.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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escaleraroyal

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Question: How do you date a girl for 2 months and still not get sex? I hope u r not paying for her :nono: :nono:
 
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