"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She flaked

donjuanapprentice01

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Man, I dunno, evrytime things seem to go well, it just goes to ****.

So yeah, that chick I had a date with last night flaked on me. She had asked me to call before hand, which I did, only to get the excuse that she was going out with friends because it was the only night her and her friends hd off. "Don't throw away my number, call me later on and we'll set something up" BS. Number thrown away.

Another loss on my part I guess. Wasn't the first time, won't be the last.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Warlord

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Originally posted by donjuanapprentice01
Man, I dunno, evrytime things seem to go well, it just goes to ****.

So yeah, that chick I had a date with last night flaked on me. She had asked me to call before hand, which I did, only to get the excuse that she was going out with friends because it was the only night her and her friends hd off. "Don't throw away my number, call me later on and we'll set something up" BS. Number thrown away.

Another loss on my part I guess. Wasn't the first time, won't be the last.
Usually when a girl tells you to "call before" it's actually a delayed "no answer" - I've learned this several times... alright maybe a dozen times before I learned to just delete her number on the spot and sarge on to the next girl. It's all good, don't waste time with a fickler unless you REALLY have a good connection.
 

Mr_knowit_all

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Originally posted by donjuanapprentice01
Man, I dunno, evrytime things seem to go well, it just goes to ****.

So yeah, that chick I had a date with last night flaked on me. She had asked me to call before hand, which I did, only to get the excuse that she was going out with friends because it was the only night her and her friends hd off. "Don't throw away my number, call me later on and we'll set something up" BS. Number thrown away.

Another loss on my part I guess. Wasn't the first time, won't be the last.
Tell this flake to fvck off immediately!!!!!

You're such a priority, and she like you so much that she put going out with her friends ahead of you? I know it was a first date, but fvck that.

What I do when this happens is say "I don't take rain checks. have a nice life".......

Don't tolerate this kind of BS.
 

sapphire

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They want you to call to confirm because they have other options and don't want to commit at that moment. So, yes it is like a delayed or neutral answer. The girl either does not have a high enough interest level or is just not sure about you. In either case, never let her or another girl jerk you around. Next time a girl tells you to call to confirm just let her know you don't play that game.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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flexion_

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Yes, next time it happends that she asks you to call her ahead of time just end it right there. No worries - move on to someone else.
 

n00bPimp

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I wouldn't consider this a flake. She's just playing hard to get, very few women are submissive and needy enough to drop whatever they're doing just to be with someone they met a few days ago. Try again in 3 or 4 days so as to not appear needy, but show that you have persistance... and of course, dont be too persistant as this may drive her away.
 
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