"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She Ended it with her bf...now what?

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have fun, try not to get attached, think of what I said about co-workers.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Just accept that you ARE the "rebound guy," and nail her for however long it lasts.

Keep your head straight. Don't expect her to "love" you. Smile and say "OK, babe," when she moves on.

This isn't very complicated. You have two choices: use the situation to your advantage, or DON'T.

Keep your other plates spinning.
 

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I've never understood how the rebound thing works. So after she breaks up with her boyfriend, the chick quickly grabs a new guy and fucks him for a short amount of time and while she is with that guy she meets another guy and the new guy becomes her boyfriend? Something doesn't add up.
 

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Yeah I think that's how it works. So you want one who has only been in her current relationship for a short time, and has used that guy to get over the longer term relationship she had with a previous guy.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Maxtro said:
I've never understood how the rebound thing works. So after she breaks up with her boyfriend, the chick quickly grabs a new guy and fucks him for a short amount of time and while she is with that guy she meets another guy and the new guy becomes her boyfriend? Something doesn't add up.
Psssstttt... Read this....

She just broke up with her BF
 

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I knew all this stuff and tried to not "want it" but I still got burned. Now I can look back and say "oh yeah, don't be the rebound guy".

When these girls take out their rebound issues on you it can affect your self-esteem if you're not strong enough because you think it's "all you".

But like Francisco said, a DJ wouldn't have that desperation in the first place and put himself through something like that. I hope I've learned enough from the pain in my life to actually put myself in situations that are good for me.
 
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