"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She Ended it with her bf...now what?

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have fun, try not to get attached, think of what I said about co-workers.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Just accept that you ARE the "rebound guy," and nail her for however long it lasts.

Keep your head straight. Don't expect her to "love" you. Smile and say "OK, babe," when she moves on.

This isn't very complicated. You have two choices: use the situation to your advantage, or DON'T.

Keep your other plates spinning.
 

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I've never understood how the rebound thing works. So after she breaks up with her boyfriend, the chick quickly grabs a new guy and fucks him for a short amount of time and while she is with that guy she meets another guy and the new guy becomes her boyfriend? Something doesn't add up.
 

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Yeah I think that's how it works. So you want one who has only been in her current relationship for a short time, and has used that guy to get over the longer term relationship she had with a previous guy.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Maxtro said:
I've never understood how the rebound thing works. So after she breaks up with her boyfriend, the chick quickly grabs a new guy and fucks him for a short amount of time and while she is with that guy she meets another guy and the new guy becomes her boyfriend? Something doesn't add up.
Psssstttt... Read this....

She just broke up with her BF
 

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I knew all this stuff and tried to not "want it" but I still got burned. Now I can look back and say "oh yeah, don't be the rebound guy".

When these girls take out their rebound issues on you it can affect your self-esteem if you're not strong enough because you think it's "all you".

But like Francisco said, a DJ wouldn't have that desperation in the first place and put himself through something like that. I hope I've learned enough from the pain in my life to actually put myself in situations that are good for me.
 
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