She confessed..

[Pumax]

A few days ago I received a message from a woman I hadn't heard from in a while.

This woman and I spent about ten years together, going out, attending events, and going to school, just being in the same circle, but never kissed or had s3x with her.
This between17 and 27.
Then we lost touch...

Here we are, five years later, she confesses to me that she'd always been attracted to me, and only now found the courage to tell me.
She told me that is currently married and has one child with her partner (she met him at 22. I think he's her number 7).
Also that she'd always thought I was attractive and made it clear to me in every way (unaware of this, like many men, I must have ignored many signs), and how she'd always thought of me, how I'd always been on her mind, and that in the meantime she'd had to move on with her life.

In fact, she's gotten a good job, has become a mother, and lives in the house she shares with him.


Now, this has got me thinking a lot lately, about two things:

1) I'm really terrible at picking up on women's signals (like most men, who are simply focused on their own lives).
2) Women can really bring a man inside their minds, think about him every day, and live a different life in the meantime.

Also, another point: in this case, if most of the experiences I've read on the forum were true, then it also means I could win this woman over at any time, simply by stepping up and asking her out (which I wouldn't do anyway).
But it's another point worth highlighting.


Curious about hearing from you, and your experiences on this

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

I'd recommend the "Obvious come ons that were missed" thread. Speaks a lot to that.

Most obvious come-on that was missed

I have a topic I think may give us a laugh. What is the most obvious come-on that a chick has told you, but that you didn't get at the time? For example, when I was 17, I had this chick tell me "Kristin and I were talking, and I told her that I thought you'd be good in bed". Being 17, I...

www.sosuave.net

Usually in my experience, It's not likely for much to develop anything with women from our past, especially if we were never intimate. Although funnily enough, my first GF ever has been stalking my FB as well as several girls who went to church with me in my teens. I was a late bloomer turned into what I am now.

I'll tell you this though, man. It's GREAT for the self esteem or confidence! IDK, man. It won't hurt anything if you want to keep talking to her at least. Just keep your goals in mind. Not that you wouldn't.

 

[Mike32ct]

Women do have secret crushes. There are plenty of times where they don’t make it overly obvious.

It might seem obvious after the fact when the cat is out of the bag, but that doesn’t really count lol.

 

[Slowhandluke]

If a women wants to make it known, she can make it known (see that scene in varsity blues with the wipped cream).

imho, she liked the OP but not enough to take it to the next level. She is just bored or wants drama or something. Her current marriage isnt going well...

red flag. Don't mess with this situation.

 

[zekko]

Also that she'd always thought I was attractive and made it clear to me in every way (unaware of this, like many men, I must have ignored many signs).

Lol, I confess I am completely oblivious. But if you spent that much time together, chances are someone had some feelings at some point.
What about you, did you ever harbor any interest in this girl, beyond a platonic relationship? Either sexual or romantic?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is the classic case of what I talked about in another thread...

A woman who marries someone she has "settled for" that isn't her first choice because she thinks he is safe and will be a good husband and father to her kids.

But eventually that knowledge that she has buried or rationalized keeps gnawing and gnawing a hole in here and here we are...

Usually it takes about 10 years...apparently it's gnawing at her even earlier.

Most likely outcome is she wants to fvck you but will not leave her husband or kids and will try to have her cake and eat it too.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I wouldn’t even respond back to her. You’re asking for a lot of drama and potentially trouble.