KontrollerX
Master Don Juan
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Great advice right there. If this was me I would dump that fvcking b*tch right on the spot. What happened to you was absolutly horrible, and is one of the worst things that could ever happen to a guy. I feel really sorry for you man, and I know times must be tough for you right now, but you really dont wanna put yourself through a now totally different relationship that lacks trust.shaunuk said:Mate, you need to look at the situation for what it is.
You turned you back from 20 minutes, and as soon as you turn back round, she's upstairs with two random guys probably fvcking and sucking them (did she?).
And then she says she doesn't know why she did it and she didn't realise what she was doing till you walked in.
Bullsh1t mate. Yes, she was crying, because she's genuinely sorry that it has upset you. Doesn't mean she respects you and is worthy of being your girlfriend.
Should you give her a second chance. No. FVCK NO. You're young mate, right now you wanna take the easy way out and just 'forgive her'. But that ISN'T the easy way out, you'll think about it everyday for months, maybe even every day until your relationship eventually ends (as most do). Yeah she was drunk, but she can't be trusted. Just think what's gonna happen next time she has a bit to drink and you're not around. You bet mate.
Don't think what I'm saying is harsh, I'm just being real with you bud. You're really young, you don't need to be cooped up with a cheat you can't trust as far as you can throw a horsebox. Peace mate.
Noo i meant stab the two guys...and i prolly wudnt stab them maybe i exaggerated a lil bit lol. But i would definitely kick the living sh*t outta them if this was me in the situation.shaunuk said:eaglez: yeah sound advice of course, and I know this thread should die now because the OP is making a mistake, but you can't stab two girls for your girlfriend cheating on you, lol..
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Well its pretty much just basic human nature to fight for something you care about or fight for something thats yours. I mean idk if you've ever been in a relationship, but when you are in one, you get REALLY defensive of your girl. Like I said its human nature. Seeing your girlfriend with another guy or hitting on another guy makes you extremely jealous, and this jealously comes out through intense anger.The Gamer said:^So its the guys fault they wanted to get laid?
I never understood a how people get angry at the person that their mate is cheating WITH unless the person knew you were hooked up. It's like they can't wrap their mind around blaming their girlfriend so they freak on the guy when hes just doing what you would do too...
its just disrespectful, and when you really care about something its only natural to be defensive, its just instinctThe Gamer said:^So its the guys fault they wanted to get laid?
I never understood a how people get angry at the person that their mate is cheating WITH unless the person knew you were hooked up. It's like they can't wrap their mind around blaming their girlfriend so they freak on the guy when hes just doing what you would do too...
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Desert Fox said:tell her "ok I forgive you. but i do not want to see you again and this is over."
dont let hate control ur life. but don't let stupidity control it either. drop this hor!
Yeah he's a total idiot hes gonna wind up as one of those guys who just doesnt learn and gets hurt constantly.cw92 said:i think he already took her back
Hahahaha or you could just take her back and start fvcking her best friend, and then make sure she sees it!fuzzx said:typical american idiot.
The only upside I can see for this is having a totally open relationship where he goes and nails all of her friends (behind her back), then takes pictures of her and him when she turns 18, convinces her to become a dancer and does porn then makes a ton of money off selling her ass while having 3somes with her and all the women he can find. At least make some money off this dude! If she's willing to stay then you need to capitalize on this great $opportunity$
If that doesn't sound appealing, she'll probably do it anyway with or without your permission. Please visit PENIS BOT and PORNSTARGALS.COM to see your girlfriend's future.
Christ american women are so fvcked up.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.