"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She cant decide between me and another

DJinTraining06

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Well guys i been posting like crazy bout my match.com girl who had suddenly gotten cold, after seein me 3 times in a week.

Well she finally was honest with me. I asked her out for firday. And she said can i be honest wiht you? "i hope u dont get upset with me, but im gettin kinda serious with this other guy"

I say how is that possible? We went out 3 times in 8 days, u were texitng me every day, tellin me we had great chemistry, and that u felt so comfortable around me. Not too mention u planned the 4th date, not me. U have the flu for 5 days and cancel our 4th date, and now a week later ur serious with a guy? How can that be.

Shes like: i wasnt lying bout bein sick, i work with this guy we never even went out, it just kinda happend. I dont know what to do, i really like u. But i like him too. i havent made a decision yet, im kinda laying low. i dont wanna see eithe rof u right now cuz i dont think its fair to lead u guys on.

So then shes like i underderstand if u never wanna speak to me again. I say "is that wat u want?" she goes "no i hope u do, i think we have great chemistry and we have alot of funnwhen we go out". "I've never done this before, i am confused. I'm sorry"

So i was trying to play it cool, and was like i know i understand, its up to u. do what ur gut tells u. Then i made some jokes to lighten it up a bit.
But then i couldnt help it i got a little testy, and she was like dont freak out on me, im sorry. I said im not freakin out,l i just dont get why u came on so strong if this was the case. she said "it happebned at the same time"

So then shes like ill call ya when im ready. so i said sure u got my #.



What should i do with this chick? I am so bummed over this, i been out with alot of girls and this one just seemed diff, i really clicked with her. should i giv eher an ultimatum eventually? or shouldi just dithc her. I really like her. i know u will all say oneitis but i know what im saying, this chick is cool.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Love those ultimatums! Woo!

Haha, well...she's playing the 'I like him more, but I don't want to hurt him' game. From experience...she has no logic behind this, this just pretty well did happen, but she likes him more.

Take it as you want.
 

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Speaking from a girls perspective, I'd say you did somehting that caused her to lose attraction, maybe you were too needy... who knows
The guys sounds like an excuse to me, she's just not attracted anymore and that's her way out.
Next her...
 
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