"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls me from the bar w/ her friends if I want to meet her out?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Is this an online thing?
When I meet girls out for dates for the first time (or the first date after we've met once or twice), unless we are part of a mutual social circle, I do it alone.
When it comes to online dating, I am even more adamant. Lose the water wings... time to grow up and be a big girl. You wanna meet me? Then do it alone. I want to date a woman, not a little girl.
Lack of confidence can be as unattractive in woman as it is in men. I am not looking to take care of some ho.
If you do it, you're not only having to impress her, you're also trying to make a favorable impression on 5 of her friends. Fvck that.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
"F" social proof and "entering worlds". If you're cool, and she's calling you to come hang out, do it. Be yourself, which is an awesome, up-beat guy who is cool with everyone, including her friends, and any random person you encounter at the bar. While I think there is validity with her seeing that you're "not a loser" by having friends and your own stuff to do, if she's judging you based on that, that's just something you can bust her on for. Not everyone needs to be at parties every Friday and Saturday, and I would argue that it's potentially a bad thing if you do.