"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls me from the bar w/ her friends if I want to meet her out?
- Thread starter Jumpman23
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Is this an online thing?
When I meet girls out for dates for the first time (or the first date after we've met once or twice), unless we are part of a mutual social circle, I do it alone.
When it comes to online dating, I am even more adamant. Lose the water wings... time to grow up and be a big girl. You wanna meet me? Then do it alone. I want to date a woman, not a little girl.
Lack of confidence can be as unattractive in woman as it is in men. I am not looking to take care of some ho.
If you do it, you're not only having to impress her, you're also trying to make a favorable impression on 5 of her friends. Fvck that.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
"F" social proof and "entering worlds". If you're cool, and she's calling you to come hang out, do it. Be yourself, which is an awesome, up-beat guy who is cool with everyone, including her friends, and any random person you encounter at the bar. While I think there is validity with her seeing that you're "not a loser" by having friends and your own stuff to do, if she's judging you based on that, that's just something you can bust her on for. Not everyone needs to be at parties every Friday and Saturday, and I would argue that it's potentially a bad thing if you do.