"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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she calls me at 4 in the morning

baurman

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this girl that im trying to get with, she calls me at 4 in the morning and I answered and she tells me how she had a nightmare and she dreams and she gets stuck in her dreams and cant wake up, blah blah. im just talking to her and telling her bullshyt while she tells me about how she hates having nightmares.

what should i tell her when she calls me the next day?? should I be C&F or neg her? Also could this be a huge IOI because she chooses to call me out of everyone else? I Dunno if she called anyone else but it seems like im the one she called and then after she talks to me she goes back to sleep. Not sure how to handle the situation tho, should I neg her tomorrow or just be C&F?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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dannyegg4575

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Dude, not everything should be neghit, blah blah blah... take a chill pill

she called you because she had a nightmare! she wanted someone to care man...
 

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dannyegg4575 said:
Dude, not everything should be neghit, blah blah blah... take a chill pill

she called you because she had a nightmare! she wanted someone to care man...
2 words, freddy kruger
 
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baurman said:
this girl that im trying to get with, she calls me at 4 in the morning and I answered and she tells me how she had a nightmare and she dreams and she gets stuck in her dreams and cant wake up, blah blah. im just talking to her and telling her bullshyt while she tells me about how she hates having nightmares.

what should i tell her when she calls me the next day?? should I be C&F or neg her? Also could this be a huge IOI because she chooses to call me out of everyone else? I Dunno if she called anyone else but it seems like im the one she called and then after she talks to me she goes back to sleep. Not sure how to handle the situation tho, should I neg her tomorrow or just be C&F?
Use it to your advantage and set up a date.. that would have been the right thing to do.
 

DismantleRepair

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There are very few reasons someone will call you at 4am in the morning:

1) They forgot they're in a far away time zone
2) Someone you know has been hospitalised or killed
3) It is a matter of national security (only if you're the President or something)
4) They hate you and are trying to piss you off
5) They are totally into you and have been thinking about you all night, and are the first person they look to when they want someone to comfort them from 'nightmares'

Sounds like an IOI to me. Come back when she randomly appears whenever you open your front door.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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baurman

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so she must be diggin me then...
should i just wait for her to call me now since im in control? when we talk i probably wont mention anything about her calling me at 4 in the morn.
 
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baurman said:
so she must be diggin me then...
should i just wait for her to call me now since im in control? when we talk i probably wont mention anything about her calling me at 4 in the morn.
She likes you. You are the man! She wanted to suck your d!ck last night when she called. CALL HER and set up a date. Why do you want to wait around? While you are waiting around, a DJ like me is going to chat her up and bang her so you will never hear from her again. You had your chance buddy.
 

afrojiggles

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set up a date and discuss it further man...
 

j0n024

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Hmm...I would have told her to come over and I would protect her in my bed, but guess you missed out.
 

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"Well baby let me turn ur nightmare into a wet dream."
Simple answer she likes you why else would she call you at 4 in the morning. Aka she wanted you to comfort for her. Hell could have been a booty call had you played your cards right.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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i wouldnt have answered. TO me, a girl who calls at 4 in the morning to talk just wants to see if youll always answer her calls no matter what.
 
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