she called me twice just now, dont know why. didnt answer. what to do?

[marmel75]

Big wheezy, that's because you are acting like a biyatch and not checking her ass about the phone sh!t. Let her know once that its not cool, then get up and walk away if she disrespects you again.

 

[TheWolfMan]

Dude so PHUCKING WHAT if you ignored her calls, what are you a girl? You shouldn't have even felt the need to text her back. YOU WANT her to think you are with a gf, or at least might be...get her hamster wheel turning about what you're up to. Also as far as the phone thing is concerned, don't play into it if you want it to stop. Sounds like you're still Phucking texting this girl or she wouldn't continue on her phone, that's a b!tch move on your part.

 

[big weezy]

no, no contacting her at all. at this point i am done chasing or contacting her. she has to contact me and even then i'm going to be difficult about meeting up cos i knew if i play it too easy she'l just flake and cancel. only if i'm getting invited over and with alcohol is this going to happen.

i have to be wary though, given what i know about her.. she's likely to contact me next mon or tues evening asking me what im doing.. i have to be careful how i play it, cos she'll either be checking to see if im available to meet or out irrespective with a girl or not so may say stuff that indicates she wants to meet. i think maybe next week when she contacts i'll say i'm busy or 'deciding what to do that night.'

either way im gona go out and look for new girls tonight so i can get rid of this BS oneitis.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

First off...texting to setup a date doesn't make a guy look like a chicken. That's horse shlt nonsense. You can dominate the shlt out of a girl through text. I just think you have no idea what you're talking about with text or you just never had success with it so you scrapped the whole idea.

"Dominate the sh*t out of a girl through text" - LoL, and WTF does that even mean?!? Are you texting stuff like "Yeah, b*tch, I'm the man, now come over here and take this date!" :crackup:

Anyway... what I'm advising is based on my own years of dating. Yes, I've gotten dates with girls by texting them; however, I find I have MORE success getting dates when I call them up or ask them in person.

More importantly though - and I stress this part all the time - when a guy first meets a girl, excessive texting puts him at a disadvantage. Any girls I've texted to get dates are with girls I've already been seeing for a while, so their like in me is established. If you don't have that time built in, texting her, especially how most of these guys are doing it where they're texting her all the time (i.e beyond just asking for a date), isn't going to build up her interest; and, over time, it will actually cause her interest to be lowered.

Next, you can't fvck a phone number. What I'm saying is that...the whole point of getting contact information is to meetup later. Don't try to act like you're going to somehow magically make a girl love you for calling her on the phone a couple times - that's retarded.

I'm not advocating talking on the phone any more than I advocate texting. Real talk, unless I'm setting up a date with a chick, I don't do either one - that's right, people, I don't call girls up just to chat with them, or ask them how their date was, etc. For the most part, I stay off the phone - calling/texting them all the time makes me look too available.

Now, with that said... if the girl wants to text me or call me, I'll certainly pick up or send them a message back - and I find most girls are willing to do this. Why? BECAUSE THEY HAVE HIGH INTEREST IN ME. And I don't pick up the phone or respond back right away all the time, so when I DO answer their incoming call/text, they're actually HAPPY and EXCITED to hear from me. Versus if I did it the other way - calling/texting them all the time - where they'd be like "OMG, another call/text? Doesn't he have other things to do besides wait for me to contact him?!?"

 

[Alvafe]

also remeber one thing is texts woman always save then, and normally complain about dudes sending text to then asking how she is doing or she want to do anything, I saw that, myself I don't even like to talk over the phone i'm more to talk in person, I use the phone for basic talk or emergencys, but i'm still working on my way here.

@Rabbit

if text works so well to you and you learned how to use it well from someone then please share the knowledge, explain how it workd for you and what you do.

for the OP you shouldn't contact her let her spend her time trying to find what you do but don't answer.

 

[SgtSplacker]

The texting game is weird, and difficult to explain. The way I play it is kinda like this:

1) Keep the texts short and sweet.
2) 3-4 texts max unless there's something going on.
3) Text in a very simple understandable manner.
4) Keep the texts positive.
5) The texts must have direction and meaning.
6) After the 4th text give an excuse, or stop replying until a lil bit later.
7) NO SARCASM (it is too easily/frequently misunderstood)
8) NEVER answer all her questions.

When you reply later say sorry that you got busy and usually the convo will not continue naturally. If it does refer to rule 6 again. If she initiates the texting i'll usually use the interest to setup the next date. This gives the texting direction and meaning. And any feelings of satisfaction are derived from her making a date with you. If you feel your texting game is getting a little too unsatisfying for her, go ahead and give her a call in a couple hours or something. It's important to be generally too busy to text, but do try and be reasonably attentive to her. When I first start texting a girl i'll mention maybe twice that I could not reply because I was busy with a minimal explanation. Mentioning it more after that gets annoying and starts to sound like BS. I like using a missed text as a reason to talk to her in a more suggestive setting, for example i'll call her later that night at like 9, lil pillow talk and set up the next date, start off the convo with "I missed your text today I wanted to give you a call". This is like a free phone call because you are really replying to her text and not initiating, makes you look less interested. If I text her I can be a little more descriptive about why I have to cut things off after 4 texts. So when she initiates the text and I have to go she already understands whats going on without me sounding like i'm making a bunch of excuses. It's critical for her to understand that you are generally too busy to text back and fourth too much. See it's simple, so yeah stay away from texting unless you are ready to navigate these waters, lol.

 

[big weezy]

if she contacts me tonight by text and asks 'what you doing?'

should i say im busy or should i be like 'deciding what to do'?

i know it's a sh1t test to see if she's still got me so i assume i need to be busy and unavailable but at the same time give her scope to up the ante to offer for me to come over etc.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Just say: "I'm doing stuff with a friend. Not sure when I'll be done."
Her: "A GIRL friend?" Or "Which friend?"
You: "Lol, who is this? The Gestapo?"

Be mysterious, don't cave in.

 

[big weezy]

Just say: "I'm doing stuff with a friend. Not sure when I'll be done."
Her: "A GIRL friend?" Or "Which friend?"
You: "Lol, who is this? The Gestapo?"

Be mysterious, don't cave in.

ah yeah that's right, be busy.. she's just testing me to see if i'm still available to her.. need her to up the ante, ie act like she's lost me.

she wont know what 'the gestapo' is.. and if im honest.. nor do i! hahaha.. but i catch your drift.

do you have something else i could use instead? she's foreign so doesn't understand a lot of stuff, i have to say things in simple english.

maybe just not reply to 'which friend?' as you say in your footer.. hamsters run best in silence.

 

[Greasy Pig]

The Gestapo was Adolf Hitler's secret police in World War II and very famous for its interrogation of enemies of the Reich.

So instead of `Gestapo', just say: "Lol, are you trying for your detective's exam? I'll talk to you later."

 

[big weezy]

You really need to listen to this advice here - you're not going to get better this way.

My contribution: You're boring. You need to be fun.

HER: "it mean that your girl friend why you couldnt talk"

YOU: "no i don't have a girlfriend"

This is BORING. Try something like this:

"All 50 of them are here with me...But I'm getting rid of a few, because they suck at tennis "

Or ANYTHING. Remember: Take risks, don't care so much about the girl, and you WILL learn by doing. You will learn MUCH, MUCH more than you can learn from folks on this forum, no matter how many little green dots they have under their name.

do you think i messed it up by sending what i sent 'no i dont have a girlfriend'?

i didnt think it was that bad.. yes boring i agree but nothing to indicate i was still into her. it's been a week now since that text and she hasn't contacted me yet.

im not going to contact her, that's for sure. i just expected her to have contacted me even just to see if she still had me. some what surprised she hasn't.

 

[big weezy]

What Harry said.

She was calling to reassure herself that you still like her, to feed her massive ego. Once that knowledge is gained, they can go back to treating you like crap again because their curiosity and need for attention are satisfied.

The ONLY way to discipline a woman is through removal of attention.

Aso, never, ever take what she says seriously. It's good to learn to "agree & amplify to show her you don't give a sh!t (and btw, you will also be showing yourself that you don't give a sh!t, cause you need to learn that).

Her: girlfriend comment

You: You know how it is, so many I've gotta beat 'em off with a stick...

You must always keep a women guessing. Don't think it's being cruel. They love it and it keeps them in their place, even if the verbally complain. What they say means zero.

i never took the calls though, is the fact that i responded with 'no i dont have a girlfriend.' enough to satisfy her massive ego?

she hasn't even attempted to contact me since that.